Just ask yourself how much that whole situation hurts you. I've been there before and hanging around with a girl that doesn't really want you while you are fiending for here is nagl. If you get along, fine, but from your posts it seems that your love for her > ability for a healthy friendship
btw, love these threads. And "I tried to be someone else, but I could'nt memorize all the lines" is classy.
You need more man friends. If you have man friends then you need to start going out with them. You need man friends who will call you a pussy to your face and goad you into talking to chicks. You need to find your balls and assert your masculinity.
I know this sounds like "macho" dude talk, but that is what you need right now. You need to revert to caveman mode until you get some sense back in your head.
Just ask yourself how much that whole situation hurts you. I've been there before and hanging around with a girl that doesn't really want you while you are fiending for here is nagl. If you get along, fine, but from your posts it seems that your love for her > ability for a healthy friendship
btw, love these threads. And "I tried to be someone else, but I could'nt memorize all the lines" is classy.
Well, this situation doesn't hurt me at all. Believe it or not. Most likely not. I've had another "potential" relationship that didn't do too well. So the lessons I learned from that have taught me to not invest so much in her and keep my eyes open for others. But while I have my eyes open, it doesn't mean that I still can't see her. But we do get along very well. But a breatk would probably be the best move for me "for now."
I love these threads, too. It only feels a bit odd when I'm reading about advice directed at me, though. AYAH!
99% of the time when you are in the friend zone, that is where you will stay. Unless something radically changes in this lady's life you are not her "type."
So do what I did with my wife, put the romantic feelings part in a box and stick it in the emotional storage closet. Stay friends. Go live your life and enjoy the company of someone(s) else. If at some future date she decides you are worthy of pursuit (and you are available) you can take that box out of storage and see if there is something really there.
By no means put your life on hold for her. She should not get any more time in your life that a normal friend.
Next time she comes over, talk about how you think you might be gay and you're not aroused by women at all. If she doesn't believe you tell her to try. I saw a movie about this once and it totally got Jessica Biel to come out them drawls
Next time she comes over, talk about how you think you might be gay and you're not aroused by women at all. If she doesn't believe you tell her to try. I saw a movie about this once and it totally got Jessica Biel to come out them drawls
Next time she comes over, talk about how you think you might be gay and you're not aroused by women at all. If she doesn't believe you tell her to try. I saw a movie about this once and it totally got Jessica Biel to come out them drawls
Then she'll set you up with her lonely gay friend.
daaaaaam ...good advice all around nothing wrong with loving someone, having a crush or just being friends. shit, you can have all of that and keep it that way. i love all kinds of girls that im friends with and its all good. once in a while some of those situations develop into something else...sometimes just momentarily after realizing maybe theyre better left as friendships. nothing wrong with that and its no diss to anyone. is great to have friends youre attracted to...the more the better, cause theres always potential for other things to flourish.meanwhile, you go get some of that vitamin P so you stay rational
i think its key to just go live life, be good to people, push the envelope and see what develops and not get hard feelings.
i think really great advice was have your friendship with her help you meet other girls. take her out drinking and dancing and focus on getting some other girls digits
There's no real science to it, contrary to what Cosmo mags or $100/hour shrinks would probably have you think. Friends - TRUE friends - are hard to come by no matter what gender. Everyone has their own little BS games they like to play and how they think what other people's "roles" should be. Don't get down but don't expect too much. Good luck!
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I wouldn't mention that.
Oh, she knows the deal. She's quite a vinyl head herself. Not an avid collector, but she knows what she wants. Apparently it's not me. GEWW!
Can't you see that I'm inside of a man lookin' out that tiny hole and all I see is you baby!
Yes. All encomapassingly so.
b/w
reminds of that dude that hadn't kissed a girl in his whole 45 years of life and came on soulstrut looking for advice.
Where's he at?! I'm sure he'd have some advice.
Or at least a goddamm picture.
It was supposed to be a joke, but I guess it came out worse than Leno at the President's Dinner.
btw, love these threads. And "I tried to be someone else, but I could'nt memorize all the lines" is classy.
She would probably feel right at home here. With all of this color commentary, she would have smiles for days.
Srsly. Getting laid is easier than finding Herbie Mann records.
I know this sounds like "macho" dude talk, but that is what you need right now. You need to revert to caveman mode until you get some sense back in your head.
Well, this situation doesn't hurt me at all. Believe it or not. Most likely not. I've had another "potential" relationship that didn't do too well. So the lessons I learned from that have taught me to not invest so much in her and keep my eyes open for others. But while I have my eyes open, it doesn't mean that I still can't see her. But we do get along very well. But a breatk would probably be the best move for me "for now."
I love these threads, too. It only feels a bit odd when I'm reading about advice directed at me, though. AYAH!
So do what I did with my wife, put the romantic feelings part in a box and stick it in the emotional storage closet. Stay friends. Go live your life and enjoy the company of someone(s) else. If at some future date she decides you are worthy of pursuit (and you are available) you can take that box out of storage and see if there is something really there.
By no means put your life on hold for her. She should not get any more time in your life that a normal friend.
Good luck.
fill your collection with records that she would want to have sex with you to.
fill your collection with records for which she would be willing to have sex with you in exhchange
Then she'll set you up with her lonely gay friend.
nothing wrong with loving someone, having a crush or just being friends. shit, you can have all of that and keep it that way. i love all kinds of girls that im friends with and its all good. once in a while some of those situations develop into something else...sometimes just momentarily after realizing maybe theyre better left as friendships. nothing wrong with that and its no diss to anyone. is great to have friends youre attracted to...the more the better, cause theres always potential for other things to flourish.meanwhile, you go get some of that vitamin P so you stay rational
i think its key to just go live life, be good to people, push the envelope and see what develops and not get hard feelings.
i think really great advice was have your friendship with her help you meet other girls. take her out drinking and dancing and focus on getting some other girls digits
What you are offering this girl is not attractive to women. She knows what you want, and that's the problem.
Be excellent in her presence.
Don't show any interest in her sexually.
Back away.
Or just tell her that she's a prude. Girls love to prove guys wrong.