Not that it's an obsessive priority for me or anything and I'm sure that in time it will come, but I feel like putting my fist through a wall when I meet so many DB's who seem to have no problems meeting women.
I know this feeling. I am glad I am not like this anymore. The key is to be perfectly fine with going home alone. Then the girls will come. Worked most of the times. I meet girls/women all of the time. But I do like to spread love though. I got alot.
BALANCE IS UNDERRATED. I RIDE FOR THE BALANCE!! THAT'S WHY MY JAPANESE IS FLAWLESS AND MY ENGLISH IS PRETTY GOOD TOO. I WILL STRAIGHT KARATE CHOP YO ASS THEN GIVE YOU THE TOP 10 REASONS WHY KB IS THE BEST PLAYER IN THE WORLD. THEN MAYBE GO TO PINKBERRY FOR DESERT.
It does irk me when people are so caught up in "the system" that they no longer question it, but pride themselves on their accomplishments in it, which I guess is fundamental to living within "it" (insert more philosophical bs). I mean nobody REALLY needs a Jaguar while texting on their Iphone nonchalantly.
my uncles and cousins are all watching golf or football or playing video games (which I also don't care for)
That's why I try to explain to non-enthusiasts about the game/player when I'm the only one excited about it. "So this is the #1 team and #2 team in the nation going at it today. This dude right here, he's Cambodian and is 6'7". They call him the Monsoon." (lady friend/party invitee/whoever is amused for a second, tolerates, THEN proceeds to ignore.) I think consideration and balance is key.
It does irk me when people are so caught up in "the system" that they no longer question it, but pride themselves on their accomplishments in it, which I guess is fundamental to living within "it" (insert more philosophical bs). I mean nobody REALLY needs a Jaguar while texting on their Iphone nonchalantly.
I'm the most normal dude in the world, in california. whe I got to texas I'm "Strange". but in fact, it is texans that are strange, says I.
Anyways, batmon is right. 4-string banjo is not a common hobby, but it does not even compare to a cross dressing new guineaan nose flute player riding a unicycle.
I have a feeling that a lot of the people we think are fitting in, probably have similar feelings.
The reason I feel alienated at times: Do you have a few hours?
Mostly just the fact that my life has been filled with crazy shit. I feel like my story freaks out "normal" people. I have a baby face so people don't expect where I'm coming from.
I'm bout to go in with the mascara and the gothwears!
I am talking about BLACKING OUT!
Where are my dark princesses? My worthy yeomen?
Lucretia my reflection!
I hear the roar of a big machine Two worlds and in between Hot metal and methedrine I hear empire down I hear empire down
I hear the roar of a big machine Two worlds and in between Love lost, fire at will Dum-dum bullets and shoot to kill, I hear Dive, bombers, and Empire down Empire down
I hear the sons of the city and dispossessed Get down, get undressed Get pretty but you and me, We got the kingdom, we got the key We got the empire, now as then, We don't doubt, we don't take direction, Lucretia, my reflection, dance the ghost with me
We look hard We look through We look hard to see for real Such things I hear, they don't make sense I don't see much evidence I don't feel. I don't feel. I don't Feel
A long train held up by page on page A hard reign held up by rage Once a railroad Now it's done...
I hear the roar of a big machine Two worlds and in between Hot metal and methedrine I hear empire down...
We got the empire, now as then, We don't doubt, we don't take reflection, Lucretia, my direction, dance the ghost with me...[/b]
Big_Stacks"I don't worry about hittin' power, cause I don't give 'em nuttin' to hit." 4,670 Posts
I'm bout to go in with the mascara and the gothwears!
I am talking about BLACKING OUT!
Where are my dark princesses? My worthy yeomen?
Lucretia my reflection!
I hear the roar of a big machine Two worlds and in between Hot metal and methedrine I hear empire down I hear empire down
I hear the roar of a big machine Two worlds and in between Love lost, fire at will Dum-dum bullets and shoot to kill, I hear Dive, bombers, and Empire down Empire down
I hear the sons of the city and dispossessed Get down, get undressed Get pretty but you and me, We got the kingdom, we got the key We got the empire, now as then, We don't doubt, we don't take direction, Lucretia, my reflection, dance the ghost with me
We look hard We look through We look hard to see for real Such things I hear, they don't make sense I don't see much evidence I don't feel. I don't feel. I don't Feel
A long train held up by page on page A hard reign held up by rage Once a railroad Now it's done...
I hear the roar of a big machine Two worlds and in between Hot metal and methedrine I hear empire down...
We got the empire, now as then, We don't doubt, we don't take reflection, Lucretia, my direction, dance the ghost with me...[/b]
Ma' in the picture is foine!!! If I weren't married,
I like the "I'm gonna pose for this picture but act like I'm looking at something else and not really involved in the picture because not really trying to fit in with these two nerds holding drinks because I am way more dark/mysterioso" pose
I like the "I'm gonna pose for this picture but act like I'm looking at something else and not really involved in the picture because not really trying to fit in with these two nerds holding drinks because I am way more dark/mysterioso" pose
What they don't tell you is Carrot Goth lost his eye in a fight with Nerd Hunters.
(btw, this isn't directed at anyone at all, I'm just shooting some jibba jabba). I hate smalltalk.
I can sympathise with the point of smalltalk though.. smalltalk is the device people use to communicate and test their commonalities with each other. A stupid long and drawn out process of saying 'we are just like each other for these reasons'.. it builds comfort.
Its kinda like dipping your toes in the pool for half an hour to see if you can get used to the water.
But GOD.. to have to go through that borrrrring ass process every time I go out.. sheesh, I wouldn't bother going out and I DEFINITELY wouldn't ever make an effort to 'fit in' as it were. No wonder some people resent it and don't want to fit into it... its f*cking boring.
Smalltalk is a device to overcome the awkward feeling of social unease.
The only time things start getting good are after that phase, when after 2 hours people eventually feel comfortable enough in their own bodies and the surrounding club, bar, party, field, barnyard, supermarket to start talking about something interesting and a bit more improvised and off the wall.
Thats why I like to deliberately make a point of cutting straight through all that and jump to the juicy stuff right at the start.. cause let's face it, that's what people are actually there for.. they just feel a bit too 'jumping the gun' about doing it.
This will see if we are going to get along in like 2 seconds flat (as opposed to 2 hours):
If I'm chatting to someone who's about to get on a 'so... that rain we had the other day, man....' or something which is just complete fluff, I literally cut that whole conversational thread with something, ANYTHING, like 'Hey, did you know that pigs orgasm for like 30 minutes ? 30 MINS... how crazy is that sh.t ?'
This really 'breaks the ice' as people like to put it. oh, plus its FUN looking at peoples reaction. It also takes a little bit of balls to do, which makes it kinda exciting to do.
Now with this little 'test', I immediately find out 1 of three things.
Either:
1. They are so dull and boring that it weirds them out and they quickly go away (good - because then I'm not lumbered for 2 hours with some boring-ass smalltalk I wish would end, but don't want to hurt their feelings by telling them they are boring the ass off me). 2. They are like 'Whhhhhaaaat ?? Hahahahahahahaha' and kinda feel awkward yet amused (These are the type of people who wish they could say something out of the blue like that - and they open up quickly for some interesting talk). 3. They give a look of relief because you're not a boring ass dude and then they try and beat your comment with some even weirder shit. - My favourite type!
I basically testing to find out if they reach MY expectations of the kind of conversation I am looking for for the evening.
BTW. I used to think that to be socailly savvy you have to demonstrate that you fit in and you have things in common, but that couldn't be farther from the truth... it will only make you feel alienated and like the goalposts keep moving and you're trying to keep up. This is the reason anyone feels like they don't fit in. Its a very natural way to see things, but unfortunately it will not do anyone any favours.
Create your own goalposts. - what a weird f*cking analogy. Hey ho.
I can't remember which dude said this earlier in this thread, but it really is about making it fun for yourself. If you have that kinda thing going on, you will find things a lot more enjoyable.. not only that, people seem to notice it a mile off and you kinda invite conversation without trying. People just start talking to you and trying to get on your level (even if you're not like them).
Oh and when that dude said 'Life and soul of the party' - blatant defence mechanism. You got on well with his girl, so he felt he had to chump you in front of her to try and stop her from liking you (this happens soooo much in bars its rediculous).
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I know this feeling. I am glad I am not like this anymore. The key is to be perfectly fine with going home alone. Then the girls will come. Worked most of the times. I meet girls/women all of the time. But I do like to spread love though. I got alot.
I am glad I am not like y'all. But I like y'all.
BALANCE IS UNDERRATED. I RIDE FOR THE BALANCE!! THAT'S WHY MY JAPANESE IS FLAWLESS AND MY ENGLISH IS PRETTY GOOD TOO. I WILL STRAIGHT KARATE CHOP YO ASS THEN GIVE YOU THE TOP 10 REASONS WHY KB IS THE BEST PLAYER IN THE WORLD. THEN MAYBE GO TO PINKBERRY FOR DESERT.
It does irk me when people are so caught up in "the system" that they no longer question it, but pride themselves on their accomplishments in it, which I guess is fundamental to living within "it" (insert more philosophical bs). I mean nobody REALLY needs a Jaguar while texting on their Iphone nonchalantly.
Okay, time for my nap.
hahaha effya, it's an inside joke.
That's why I try to explain to non-enthusiasts about the game/player when I'm the only one excited about it. "So this is the #1 team and #2 team in the nation going at it today. This dude right here, he's Cambodian and is 6'7". They call him the Monsoon." (lady friend/party invitee/whoever is amused for a second, tolerates, THEN proceeds to ignore.)
You sound poor.
No he did not...
(I could hear the SS voices already..."Don't worry you son yourself on the daily". Naw, F*ck you! Okay, nap.)
Think he didn't when he did?
Anyways, batmon is right. 4-string banjo is not a common hobby, but it does not even compare to a cross dressing new guineaan nose flute player riding a unicycle.
YOUR MOM.
?
no?
it was worth a try.
The reason I feel alienated at times: Do you have a few hours?
Mostly just the fact that my life has been filled with crazy shit. I feel like my story freaks out "normal" people. I have a baby face so people don't expect where I'm coming from.
I am talking about BLACKING OUT!
Where are my dark princesses? My worthy yeomen?
Lucretia my reflection!
I hear the roar of a big machine
Two worlds and in between
Hot metal and methedrine
I hear empire down
I hear empire down
I hear the roar of a big machine
Two worlds and in between
Love lost, fire at will
Dum-dum bullets and shoot to kill, I hear
Dive, bombers, and
Empire down
Empire down
I hear the sons of the city and dispossessed
Get down, get undressed
Get pretty but you and me,
We got the kingdom, we got the key
We got the empire, now as then,
We don't doubt, we don't take direction,
Lucretia, my reflection, dance the ghost with me
We look hard
We look through
We look hard to see for real
Such things I hear, they don't make sense
I don't see much evidence
I don't feel. I don't feel. I don't Feel
A long train held up by page on page
A hard reign held up by rage
Once a railroad
Now it's done...
I hear the roar of a big machine
Two worlds and in between
Hot metal and methedrine
I hear empire down...
We got the empire, now as then,
We don't doubt, we don't take reflection,
Lucretia, my direction, dance the ghost with me...[/b]
Ma' in the picture is foine!!! If I weren't married,
Peace,
Big Stacks from Kakalak
Didn't know the drinks in Club Necromana were free too...
Dude in the middle is rocking a serious goth/pirate/wizard mash-up. The Z-Trip of the goth wardrobe game, I'd say.
What they don't tell you is Carrot Goth lost his eye in a fight with Nerd Hunters.
She's writing her name on the wall with the sharpie that is squeezed between her cheeks.
Its hard to tell from the picture.
Its a goth thing.
nsfw
i think she totally feels your alienation to an even greater extent, nameeeen? like get me the F*ck out of romania, stat!!!
NAGL!!!!!
hang in there
I was always a good listener and made many friends growing up travelling and organizing my NGO but it was always a bit of an act
but recently I have found the love of my life and a great home/job/school situation
so i stay busy and really dont go out at all
ive narrwowed down my truest friends to 10 people and avoid the others
i mean ive litteraly gone to events/reunions/going away parties and said hi to everyone then snuck out the backdoor on some going to the bathroom tip
i dont feel the need to fake enjoying boring situations so in that sens i am not fitting in
thanks for shraing herm
I can sympathise with the point of smalltalk though.. smalltalk is the device people use to communicate and test their commonalities with each other. A stupid long and drawn out process of saying 'we are just like each other for these reasons'.. it builds comfort.
Its kinda like dipping your toes in the pool for half an hour to see if you can get used to the water.
But GOD.. to have to go through that borrrrring ass process every time I go out.. sheesh, I wouldn't bother going out and I DEFINITELY wouldn't ever make an effort to 'fit in' as it were. No wonder some people resent it and don't want to fit into it... its f*cking boring.
Smalltalk is a device to overcome the awkward feeling of social unease.
The only time things start getting good are after that phase, when after 2 hours people eventually feel comfortable enough in their own bodies and the surrounding club, bar, party, field, barnyard, supermarket to start talking about something interesting and a bit more improvised and off the wall.
Thats why I like to deliberately make a point of cutting straight through all that and jump to the juicy stuff right at the start.. cause let's face it, that's what people are actually there for.. they just feel a bit too 'jumping the gun' about doing it.
This will see if we are going to get along in like 2 seconds flat (as opposed to 2 hours):
If I'm chatting to someone who's about to get on a 'so... that rain we had the other day, man....' or something which is just complete fluff, I literally cut that whole conversational thread with something, ANYTHING, like 'Hey, did you know that pigs orgasm for like 30 minutes ? 30 MINS... how crazy is that sh.t ?'
This really 'breaks the ice' as people like to put it. oh, plus its FUN looking at peoples reaction. It also takes a little bit of balls to do, which makes it kinda exciting to do.
Now with this little 'test', I immediately find out 1 of three things.
Either:
1. They are so dull and boring that it weirds them out and they quickly go away (good - because then I'm not lumbered for 2 hours with some boring-ass smalltalk I wish would end, but don't want to hurt their feelings by telling them they are boring the ass off me).
2. They are like 'Whhhhhaaaat ?? Hahahahahahahaha' and kinda feel awkward yet amused (These are the type of people who wish they could say something out of the blue like that - and they open up quickly for some interesting talk).
3. They give a look of relief because you're not a boring ass dude and then they try and beat your comment with some even weirder shit. - My favourite type!
I basically testing to find out if they reach MY expectations of the kind of conversation I am looking for for the evening.
BTW. I used to think that to be socailly savvy you have to demonstrate that you fit in and you have things in common, but that couldn't be farther from the truth... it will only make you feel alienated and like the goalposts keep moving and you're trying to keep up. This is the reason anyone feels like they don't fit in. Its a very natural way to see things, but unfortunately it will not do anyone any favours.
Create your own goalposts. - what a weird f*cking analogy. Hey ho.
I can't remember which dude said this earlier in this thread, but it really is about making it fun for yourself. If you have that kinda thing going on, you will find things a lot more enjoyable.. not only that, people seem to notice it a mile off and you kinda invite conversation without trying. People just start talking to you and trying to get on your level (even if you're not like them).
Oh and when that dude said 'Life and soul of the party' - blatant defence mechanism. You got on well with his girl, so he felt he had to chump you in front of her to try and stop her from liking you (this happens soooo much in bars its rediculous).
Damn I waffle on!!
Peace.