shit just got more fucked up. my roomate just walked into my room and basically denied that they hooked up, when i know for a fact due to certain aural cues that they did.
friends lying to friends? what the fuck is that?
it's rather obvious she knows you have a crush on her, and she's trying to spare your feelings. She put him up to it, dudes are too stupid to go through the trouble of such a charade.
shit just got more fucked up. my roomate just walked into my room and basically denied that they hooked up, when i know for a fact due to certain aural cues that they did.
friends lying to friends? what the fuck is that?
At the end of the day dude, you don't "own" her or your friend. It sounds to me like you got feelings for her that extend more than just a "close" friend. If that's your boy, you should be happy he hooked up with such a great chick. nahmean? Rather her be with one of your friends than some random scumbag...
peace.
p.s. He told a white-lie cuz they both probably had a talk after they did the whoopee, and knew that you'd probably react mad over-protective. Don't take that shit too serious hommie...
It's a "laugh and the world laughs with you" kinda deal. When you're single, everybody else is hooking up. When you have a lover, the rest of the world is one big stag party.
yeah that shits true i hate that shit. i dont wanna get too personal on here, but i just had some bugged shit happen with a close friend and my girl of a couple years (now both x'ed). now that i don't have a girl, it's like i never catch a vibe from females like i did when i was with her. but all the while with old girl, i caught it all the time. being the "good guy" that I am, I never fucked with any of them chicks. maybe I shoulda... mighta had somethin' to fall back on after the breakup! ha. it's a strange world. now i need some strange nani...
Maru, I'll go first. I have a crush on my roommate. Now your turn to say it. Would I get pissed if she hooked up with a friend of mine? Depends on the friend. Not so much on the jealousy tip but I don't think most of my friends are good enough for her.
Here's a cheesey pic of my roommate and me.........
At the end of the day dude, you don't "own" her or your friend. It sounds to me like you got feelings for her that extend more than just a "close" friend. If that's your boy, you should be happy he hooked up with such a great chick. nahmean? Rather her be with one of your friends than some random scumbag...
yeah we kissed and made up, but i still called her out on lying straight to my face. i live with three girls actually, all good friends and i think it's sort of like a territorial/man's domain type of thing. i screen the dude's they go out with, and get upset if they go out with jerks.
in the end though, you're right sheep. they're both amazing people, so i can't front on that.
At the end of the day dude, you don't "own" her or your friend. It sounds to me like you got feelings for her that extend more than just a "close" friend. If that's your boy, you should be happy he hooked up with such a great chick. nahmean? Rather her be with one of your friends than some random scumbag...
yeah we kissed and made up, but i still called her out on lying straight to my face. i live with three girls actually, all good friends and i think it's sort of like a territorial/man's domain type of thing. i screen the dude's they go out with, and get upset if they go out with jerks.
in the end though, you're right sheep. they're both amazing people, so i can't front on that.
Big_Stacks"I don't worry about hittin' power, cause I don't give 'em nuttin' to hit." 4,670 Posts
At the end of the day dude, you don't "own" her or your friend. It sounds to me like you got feelings for her that extend more than just a "close" friend. If that's your boy, you should be happy he hooked up with such a great chick. nahmean? Rather her be with one of your friends than some random scumbag...
yeah we kissed and made up, but i still called her out on lying straight to my face. i live with three girls actually, all good friends and i think it's sort of like a territorial/man's domain type of thing. i screen the dude's they go out with, and get upset if they go out with jerks.
in the end though, you're right sheep. they're both amazing people, so i can't front on that.
Hey Maru,
I certainly appreciate your dilemma. In high school, I was always the "nice guy" that hot girls talked to about their jerk boyfriends. In other words, I was the ever-dreaded "friend" guy chicks confided in. It used to piss me off to see dudes piss on these chicks, while the chicks overlooked the good guy right in front of them. The way to solve your issue is to get some booty yourself. I was gettin' my fuck on in college (later bloomer coupled with historically Black college with many beautiful women related), so the nice guy issue wasn't that big a deal since I was gettin' mine too. You wouldn't worry about your friends bonin' if you were gettin' some good dome in the next bedroom. Feel me???
At the end of the day dude, you don't "own" her or your friend. It sounds to me like you got feelings for her that extend more than just a "close" friend. If that's your boy, you should be happy he hooked up with such a great chick. nahmean? Rather her be with one of your friends than some random scumbag...
yeah we kissed and made up, but i still called her out on lying straight to my face. i live with three girls actually, all good friends and i think it's sort of like a territorial/man's domain type of thing. i screen the dude's they go out with, and get upset if they go out with jerks.
in the end though, you're right sheep. they're both amazing people, so i can't front on that.
Hey Maru,
I certainly appreciate your dilemma. In high school, I was always the "nice guy" that hot girls talked to about their jerk boyfriends. In other words, I was the ever-dreaded "friend" guy chicks confided in. It used to piss me off to see dudes piss on these chicks, while the chicks overlooked the good guy right in front of them. The way to solve your issue is to get some booty yourself. I was gettin' my fuck on in college (later bloomer coupled with historically Black college with many beautiful women related), so the nice guy issue wasn't that big a deal since I was gettin' mine too. You wouldn't worry about your friends bonin' if you were gettin' some good dome in the next bedroom. Feel me???[/b]
Peace,
Big Stacks from Kakalak
No disrespect to , but if anyone on SS should have an advice column, it's Big Stacks. That's some real talk right there. Once you find someone to kick it with, you won't worry too much about what others are up to.
I don't know about a woman being "like a sister" to me, but I know I wouldn't want any of my buddies hooking up with my sister - that could create some awkward shit. You may hear details about things that you really don't want to know about & can get caught in the middle of bull caca. If I was in the same situation, I would tell the both my roommate & my friend to shut up & leave me out of it. They're both old enough to fuck without having to make some mad drama out of it.
Also, maru, you should try to sleep with your roommates. Take advantage of these oppertunities before you get hitched & bogged down with resposibilities. Get these 3 broads together & have a fucktasitic afternoon or something.
THIS IS NOT A BROS BEFORE HOES ISSUE! the way you explained things it seems like you are just a bit jealous that they are getting down and you are not. if they are truly good friends of yours like you said(and dude had the courtesy to ask you if it was okay) then you should be happy for them. are they both decent people? the only way this would weird me out is if one of them was married or doing it behind a commited relationship. but if they are both single good for them. peace, stein. . .
I don't know about a woman being "like a sister" to me, but I know I wouldn't want any of my buddies hooking up with my sister - that could create some awkward shit. You may hear details about things that you really don't want to know about & can get caught in the middle of bull caca. If I was in the same situation, I would tell the both my roommate & my friend to shut up & leave me out of it. They're both old enough to fuck without having to make some mad drama out of it.
Also, maru, you should try to sleep with your roommates. Take advantage of these oppertunities before you get hitched & bogged down with resposibilities. Get these 3 broads together & have a fucktasitic afternoon or something.
Peace
>Brad, >It would be difficult for me to be any more miserable right now, I feel >like the worst person ever. First, let me start by saying that I am truly >truly sorry, and I hate myself for hurting you. Of all the people in the >whole entire world, you were honestly the last person that I would ever >want to wrong in any way. There is no excuse at all or anything that >happened, so I won't even try other than to say all of us had WAY too much >to drink, and I did a stupid thing. I can handle you being pissed at me, I >absolutely deserve it, I can even handle the ugly words that were exchanged >between us, what I can't handle is thinking that you see me as a different >person. > >It is weird, I feel like I just went through a horrible break up or >something. The world looked funny yesterday, I couldn't crack a smile if >you paid me, there >are songs I can't listen to, and I just feel beyond crushed. I don't know >if you meant everything you said to me, and I am hoping that you didn't. I >know that I was wrong on many levels, but I am also hoping that this is >something that we can deal with. I know it sounds totally crazy and stupid, >but you have come to play such a significant role in my life, I can't >imagine my days without you. It is totally strange and weird to say that, >and you could say that my behavior didn't reflect that, and you would be >correct. I hate feeling like you hate me, and I hate feeling like all of >your friends think I am a terrible person, because I am not. I know there >is nothing I can say or do to take back what happened, but I just want you >to know that fighting with you was just about the worst thing I could have >ever imagined. It was right up there with one of the ugliest nights of my >life, and I >would give anything in the world to rewind and fix it. > >I am not sure if you will respond to this, part of me thinks that you >won't. If not today, then maybe some other time. Also, thanks for getting >my stuff together, although I think my sunglasses are still at your house, >if you could keep your eyes peeled for them that would be great. > >I can't even focus or work today, I can't eat, I seriously feel like it was >an ugly break up, and I am hoping against hopes that it was not that and >you are not done with me. Please don't cut me off, I really don't think I >can handle that. > >I am so sorry. > >Elizabeth > > > > > > >Dear Elizabeth, > >Thank you for your concern. I'll be sure to file it away under "L" for >"Long-winded diatribes from drunken whores I couldn't care less about". You >did a stupid thing huh? No...doing long division and forgetting to carry >the one is "a stupid thing"; Mixing in a red sock with a load whites is "a >stupid thing"; Blowing some guy in a bathroom for 45 minutes while I sit at >the bar wondering if you're taking so long because you ate too much bran >that morning isn't as much a "Stupid thing" as it is grounds for permanent >removal from my social calendar. > >To be honest, I'm not sure if it was more amusing that you went and >degraded yourself in a public toilet not once but twice in a 2 hour span, >or that you seemed to think that by saying "Well, I didn't F**k him" >somehow gave you a >clean slate. So forgive me if I couldn't care less if the world "looked >funny" to you yesterday. Since your world revolves around blow dryers, >golden retrievers, Prada Bags and Jelly Beans, I'm sure it must have been >most unsettling to actually have to consider someone else's feelings for 24 >hours straight. > >The good news for you is that my friends don't think you're a terrible >person, they just think you're the average run of the mill cum-guzzling >blond who commands about as much respect as your average child porn >collector. I could be wrong but, it's pretty hard to respect some B&T chick >who comes out to spend the night at my place even though she's seeing >someone else in New jersey and winds up tongue-bathing the taint of anyone >who decides 30 minutes of droning commentary on Colin Farrell's new haircut >is worth putting up with for a hand job in >the men's room. The good thing about being a guy is that when I eventually >bump into the young lad who finger-blasted you on top of a towel dispenser >last Saturday, we'll have a shot and laugh our heads off about the time it >happened. > >By the way, for the amount of time you claim to spend in spin class you >really must be doing something wrong to sport the thunder thighs you do. >Watching you parade around my bedroom in a thong was a little like watching >sea lions mate. Thought you might like to know. > >PS. I BCC'd about 100 people on this email. >Talk to you never, > >Brad
Also, maru, you should try to sleep with your roommates. Take advantage of these oppertunities before you get hitched & bogged down with resposibilities. Get these 3 broads together & have a fucktasitic afternoon or something.
Peace
h
Word life son! Word life. Haz droppin' the REAL advice on folls!
Yo man, the only thing that could make this uncomfortable would be the possibilty of your two close friends dating and subsequently breaking up, thus causing a rift in your friendship.
And that really sucks. I dated my bestfriend's friend, and now that we went through a terrible break-up, I really don't want to be hanging with my friend owing to the association.
That's a serious worry, but it doesn't look like you will ever have any say in the matter because these people are individuals. Either you fess up to your unadultered love for your pseudo-sister, or you man-up and accept the circumstances.
You wouldn't worry about your friends bonin' if you were gettin' some good dome in the next bedroom. Feel me???[/b]
Once you find someone to kick it with, you won't worry too much about what others are up to.
It's not always that simple - nothing more desperate than a guy Trying (HARD) To Get A Girlfriend, that vibe scares the women away, and if you're in a dry spell, sometimes you gotta just ride it out.
But otherwise,[/b] if he can be laid-back about it, Maru should definitely fight fire with fire and find himself a ladyfriend to get with.
Fuck that I THINK OF HER AS A SISTER bullshit. My friend does that shit with so many girls and no one can get at them cuz automatically he's busting there balls about shit. Shit is dumb. He has started so much beef with people over protecting them that he has lost a few good friends. Not me cuz I could care less about the lames he is "BROTHER" to. Anyways I would like to bang one of the girls he is brother too in the future.
Big_Stacks"I don't worry about hittin' power, cause I don't give 'em nuttin' to hit." 4,670 Posts
You wouldn't worry about your friends bonin' if you were gettin' some good dome in the next bedroom. Feel me???[/b]
Once you find someone to kick it with, you won't worry too much about what others are up to.
It's not always that simple - nothing more desperate than a guy Trying (HARD) To Get A Girlfriend, that vibe scares the women away, and if you're in a dry spell, sometimes you gotta just ride it out.
But otherwise,[/b] if he can be laid-back about it, Maru should definitely fight fire with fire and find himself a ladyfriend to get with.
C'mon Pickwick, my post said NOTHING about trying snag a girlfriend. My post said basically, "get some ass and you won't sweat the fact that your friends are bonin'". I'd never advocate sweatin' chicks!!! Pleeeeeeeeeeze!!!!
bottom line, how would you feel in a similar situation? do i have a right to feel like this somehow crosses some moral boundaries in our friendships, or am i just tripping?
you seem like a good dude. i once had a situation where i broke up with (now) girlfriend, she decided to go out with one of my friends, and i was having major sleeping problems for a little over a month, because i had an early morning class with dude, and that triggered insomnia. What can i say, i simply couldn't handle it. I'm a sensitive dude and it was the first time shit like that happened. I was smoking cigarrettes, just walking around my apartment, and talking to my friend on the phone at like 5am, cuz he was going through major issues too.
But yea, however you're feeling is natural man. Different people have different responses to shit like that. Just focus on work, school, exercise, whatever, and let the rest play itself out. A year from now, you'll probably be laughing about that shit. hang in there my Warriors friend.
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hey, that's my Billy poster.
lol.
so emo up in here.
it's rather obvious she knows you have a crush on her, and she's trying to spare your feelings. She put him up to it, dudes are too stupid to go through the trouble of such a charade.
Madonna "This Used To Be My Playground"
Seriously, denying it is pretty shady. I mean, is the dude trying to act like they just cuddled all night?
were you there? what if they did? what if she changed her mind? what if he couldnt get it up? what if she passed out? what if he passed out?
oh to be young lovers.
At the end of the day dude, you don't "own" her or your friend. It sounds to me like you got feelings for her that extend more than just a "close" friend. If that's your boy, you should be happy he hooked up with such a great chick. nahmean? Rather her be with one of your friends than some random scumbag...
peace.
p.s. He told a white-lie cuz they both probably had a talk after they did the whoopee, and knew that you'd probably react mad over-protective. Don't take that shit too serious hommie...
yeah that shits true i hate that shit. i dont wanna get too personal on here, but i just had some bugged shit happen with a close friend and my girl of a couple years (now both x'ed). now that i don't have a girl, it's like i never catch a vibe from females like i did when i was with her. but all the while with old girl, i caught it all the time. being the "good guy" that I am, I never fucked with any of them chicks. maybe I shoulda... mighta had somethin' to fall back on after the breakup! ha. it's a strange world. now i need some strange nani...
All possible. Just not likely. From the way he is talking, his friend is pretty smooth with the ladies.
Yep, and I bet he knows what a lady wants in bed...KILL BOTH MOTHERFUCKAS RIGHT NOW!
Here's a cheesey pic of my roommate and me.........
Wait for it.....
(I'll keep this up for a day)
yeah we kissed and made up, but i still called her out on lying straight to my face. i live with three girls actually, all good friends and i think it's sort of like a territorial/man's domain type of thing. i screen the dude's they go out with, and get upset if they go out with jerks.
in the end though, you're right sheep. they're both amazing people, so i can't front on that.
Sorority Mom
Hey Maru,
I certainly appreciate your dilemma. In high school, I was always the "nice guy" that hot girls talked to about their jerk boyfriends. In other words, I was the ever-dreaded "friend" guy chicks confided in. It used to piss me off to see dudes piss on these chicks, while the chicks overlooked the good guy right in front of them. The way to solve your issue is to get some booty yourself. I was gettin' my fuck on in college (later bloomer coupled with historically Black college with many beautiful women related), so the nice guy issue wasn't that big a deal since I was gettin' mine too. You wouldn't worry about your friends bonin' if you were gettin' some good dome in the next bedroom. Feel me???
Peace,
Big Stacks from Kakalak
No disrespect to
I don't know about a woman being "like a sister" to me, but I know I wouldn't want any of my buddies hooking up with my sister - that could create some awkward shit. You may hear details about things that you really don't want to know about & can get caught in the middle of bull caca. If I was in the same situation, I would tell the both my roommate & my friend to shut up & leave me out of it. They're both old enough to fuck without having to make some mad drama out of it.
Also, maru, you should try to sleep with your roommates. Take advantage of these oppertunities before you get hitched & bogged down with resposibilities. Get these 3 broads together & have a fucktasitic afternoon or something.
Peace
h
the way you explained things it seems like you are just a bit jealous that they are getting down and you are not. if they are truly good friends of yours like you said(and dude had the courtesy to ask you if it was okay) then you should be happy for them. are they both decent people? the only way this would weird me out is if one of them was married or doing it behind a commited relationship. but if they are both single good for them. peace, stein. . .
>Brad,
>It would be difficult for me to be any more miserable right now, I
feel
>like the worst person ever. First, let me start by saying that I am
truly
>truly sorry, and I hate myself for hurting you. Of all the people in
the
>whole entire world, you were honestly the last person that I would
ever
>want to wrong in any way. There is no excuse at all or anything that
>happened, so I won't even try other than to say all of us had WAY too
much
>to drink, and I did a stupid thing. I can handle you being pissed at
me, I
>absolutely deserve it, I can even handle the ugly words that were
exchanged
>between us, what I can't handle is thinking that you see me as a
different
>person.
>
>It is weird, I feel like I just went through a horrible break up or
>something. The world looked funny yesterday, I couldn't crack a smile
if
>you paid me, there
>are songs I can't listen to, and I just feel beyond crushed. I don't
know
>if you meant everything you said to me, and I am hoping that you
didn't. I
>know that I was wrong on many levels, but I am also hoping that this
is
>something that we can deal with. I know it sounds totally crazy and
stupid,
>but you have come to play such a significant role in my life, I can't
>imagine my days without you. It is totally strange and weird to say
that,
>and you could say that my behavior didn't reflect that, and you would
be
>correct. I hate feeling like you hate me, and I hate feeling like all
of
>your friends think I am a terrible person, because I am not. I know
there
>is nothing I can say or do to take back what happened, but I just
want you
>to know that fighting with you was just about the worst thing I could
have
>ever imagined. It was right up there with one of the ugliest nights
of my
>life, and I
>would give anything in the world to rewind and fix it.
>
>I am not sure if you will respond to this, part of me thinks that you
>won't. If not today, then maybe some other time. Also, thanks for
getting
>my stuff together, although I think my sunglasses are still at your
house,
>if you could keep your eyes peeled for them that would be great.
>
>I can't even focus or work today, I can't eat, I seriously feel like
it was
>an ugly break up, and I am hoping against hopes that it was not that
and
>you are not done with me. Please don't cut me off, I really don't
think I
>can handle that.
>
>I am so sorry.
>
>Elizabeth
>
>
>
>
>
>
>Dear Elizabeth,
>
>Thank you for your concern. I'll be sure to file it away under "L"
for
>"Long-winded diatribes from drunken whores I couldn't care less
about". You
>did a stupid thing huh? No...doing long division and forgetting to
carry
>the one is "a stupid thing"; Mixing in a red sock with a load whites
is "a
>stupid thing"; Blowing some guy in a bathroom for 45 minutes while I
sit at
>the bar wondering if you're taking so long because you ate too much
bran
>that morning isn't as much a "Stupid thing" as it is grounds for
permanent
>removal from my social calendar.
>
>To be honest, I'm not sure if it was more amusing that you went and
>degraded yourself in a public toilet not once but twice in a 2 hour
span,
>or that you seemed to think that by saying "Well, I didn't F**k him"
>somehow gave you a
>clean slate. So forgive me if I couldn't care less if the world
"looked
>funny" to you yesterday. Since your world revolves around blow
dryers,
>golden retrievers, Prada Bags and Jelly Beans, I'm sure it must have
been
>most unsettling to actually have to consider someone else's feelings
for 24
>hours straight.
>
>The good news for you is that my friends don't think you're a
terrible
>person, they just think you're the average run of the mill
cum-guzzling
>blond who commands about as much respect as your average child porn
>collector. I could be wrong but, it's pretty hard to respect some B&T
chick
>who comes out to spend the night at my place even though she's seeing
>someone else in New jersey and winds up tongue-bathing the taint of
anyone
>who decides 30 minutes of droning commentary on Colin Farrell's new
haircut
>is worth putting up with for a hand job in
>the men's room. The good thing about being a guy is that when I
eventually
>bump into the young lad who finger-blasted you on top of a towel
dispenser
>last Saturday, we'll have a shot and laugh our heads off about the
time it
>happened.
>
>By the way, for the amount of time you claim to spend in spin class
you
>really must be doing something wrong to sport the thunder thighs you
do.
>Watching you parade around my bedroom in a thong was a little like
watching
>sea lions mate. Thought you might like to know.
>
>PS. I BCC'd about 100 people on this email.
>Talk to you never,
>
>Brad
i got one that an exgirlfriends boyfriend sent to me recently thats equally hilarious/scary
maru....you gotta get over your "i'm the nice guy/friend" syndrome. its a dead end full of chastity and regret.
Word life son! Word life. Haz droppin' the REAL advice on folls!
And that really sucks. I dated my bestfriend's friend, and now that we went through a terrible break-up, I really don't want to be hanging with my friend owing to the association.
That's a serious worry, but it doesn't look like you will ever have any say in the matter because these people are individuals. Either you fess up to your unadultered love for your pseudo-sister, or you man-up and accept the circumstances.
Best of luck.
It's not always that simple - nothing more desperate than a guy Trying (HARD) To Get A Girlfriend, that vibe scares the women away, and if you're in a dry spell, sometimes you gotta just ride it out.
But otherwise,[/b] if he can be laid-back about it, Maru should definitely fight fire with fire and find himself a ladyfriend to get with.
C'mon Pickwick, my post said NOTHING about trying snag a girlfriend. My post said basically, "get some ass and you won't sweat the fact that your friends are bonin'". I'd never advocate sweatin' chicks!!! Pleeeeeeeeeeze!!!!
Peace,
Big Stacks from Kakalak
you seem like a good dude. i once had a situation where i broke up with (now) girlfriend, she decided to go out with one of my friends, and i was having major sleeping problems for a little over a month, because i had an early morning class with dude, and that triggered insomnia. What can i say, i simply couldn't handle it. I'm a sensitive dude and it was the first time shit like that happened. I was smoking cigarrettes, just walking around my apartment, and talking to my friend on the phone at like 5am, cuz he was going through major issues too.
But yea, however you're feeling is natural man. Different people have different responses to shit like that. Just focus on work, school, exercise, whatever, and let the rest play itself out. A year from now, you'll probably be laughing about that shit. hang in there my Warriors friend.
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