Choosing a Mate-Trophy Piece or the Good Babe?
Big_Stacks
"I don't worry about hittin' power, cause I don't give 'em nuttin' to hit." 4,670 Posts
Hey,Here is a internet blog piece (sorry, it's long) that sums up nicely some of the points I made about relationships in the past: 
Today I want to get yall fools opinion on mate selection, particularly on the question of whether to wife a trophy chick or a good chick. The question breaks down into do you want a women that looks good or a women that is good for you?Now all men, no matter how good your relationship with your girlfriend or wifey is, are tempted by the trophy chick. I would even say, the majority of guys would cheat on their wifey for their dream trophy chick. I know if Ester Baxter was hollarin??? for a one night stand, I would suspend my relationship coverage with my girl for an hour or two (hopefully she doesn???t read this and if she does that was just a lie). I, however, wouldn???t wife Ester Baxter as I do not know if she would be a good match for me, though I???m sure she would make a fine wifey (I hope Ester???s reading this). Simply put, the trophy chick is what we all aspire to have on a purely sexual attraction basis. It is nothing more than a physical thing and is as if our penis had full reign of our decision making process -which is similar to how we acted during puberty.Now the good chick, on the other hand, is someone who you are still physically attracted too, but not as much as the trophy chick. The good chick, however, has additional qualities that the trophy chick does not have. These qualities can include things like good personality, someone you get along with, intelligence, would make for a good mother, a good wife, a good cook, whatever. Just know they cannot be your dream girl on a purely physical basis, because the overwhelming majority of dudes can???t bag a trophy chick (Damn that Jay-Z for that Beyonce pull -though I have suspicion Beyonce is a friggen weirdo). Now having a choice between these two types, which one would you choose?I personally, would choose, the good chick. Not only because I have a good chick now, but because like I said in my previous post about successful relationships that having a good women in your life will lead to you becoming successful in all other parts of your life. You see something strange happens when you have the right chick in your life, I hate to say this, but you have something to live for in a sense. I???m sure you???ve all heard the saying, ???behind every strong man, is an even stronger women??? (is that how it goes?). The gist of this axiom is that men really live for women and that they ultimately inspire us to achieve greatness.In the last G-Unit mixtape, Return of the Bodysnatches, Tony Yayo (of all people) on the track,???Make Me Feel Good??? says, ???The cars, the foreign cars, European cars, the jewelery, the big homes, we do all this shit for the b!tches if you think about it, from the shape up to the sneakers??? And it???s true. We wouldn???t get fly for other guys that???s just ghey, we do it for the women. We all want to get our mama out the hood, we all want to take our down girl from the hood and put them up in mansions and give them crazy shopping sprees. If you have a good girl, she will be the source for your motivation that makes you push yourself to do better. Find a girl that doesn???t inspire you and the opposite will be true. But what do you degenerates think?Any thoughts???Peace,Big Stacks from Kakalak
Today I want to get yall fools opinion on mate selection, particularly on the question of whether to wife a trophy chick or a good chick. The question breaks down into do you want a women that looks good or a women that is good for you?Now all men, no matter how good your relationship with your girlfriend or wifey is, are tempted by the trophy chick. I would even say, the majority of guys would cheat on their wifey for their dream trophy chick. I know if Ester Baxter was hollarin??? for a one night stand, I would suspend my relationship coverage with my girl for an hour or two (hopefully she doesn???t read this and if she does that was just a lie). I, however, wouldn???t wife Ester Baxter as I do not know if she would be a good match for me, though I???m sure she would make a fine wifey (I hope Ester???s reading this). Simply put, the trophy chick is what we all aspire to have on a purely sexual attraction basis. It is nothing more than a physical thing and is as if our penis had full reign of our decision making process -which is similar to how we acted during puberty.Now the good chick, on the other hand, is someone who you are still physically attracted too, but not as much as the trophy chick. The good chick, however, has additional qualities that the trophy chick does not have. These qualities can include things like good personality, someone you get along with, intelligence, would make for a good mother, a good wife, a good cook, whatever. Just know they cannot be your dream girl on a purely physical basis, because the overwhelming majority of dudes can???t bag a trophy chick (Damn that Jay-Z for that Beyonce pull -though I have suspicion Beyonce is a friggen weirdo). Now having a choice between these two types, which one would you choose?I personally, would choose, the good chick. Not only because I have a good chick now, but because like I said in my previous post about successful relationships that having a good women in your life will lead to you becoming successful in all other parts of your life. You see something strange happens when you have the right chick in your life, I hate to say this, but you have something to live for in a sense. I???m sure you???ve all heard the saying, ???behind every strong man, is an even stronger women??? (is that how it goes?). The gist of this axiom is that men really live for women and that they ultimately inspire us to achieve greatness.In the last G-Unit mixtape, Return of the Bodysnatches, Tony Yayo (of all people) on the track,???Make Me Feel Good??? says, ???The cars, the foreign cars, European cars, the jewelery, the big homes, we do all this shit for the b!tches if you think about it, from the shape up to the sneakers??? And it???s true. We wouldn???t get fly for other guys that???s just ghey, we do it for the women. We all want to get our mama out the hood, we all want to take our down girl from the hood and put them up in mansions and give them crazy shopping sprees. If you have a good girl, she will be the source for your motivation that makes you push yourself to do better. Find a girl that doesn???t inspire you and the opposite will be true. But what do you degenerates think?Any thoughts???Peace,Big Stacks from Kakalak
Comments
Nah but definitely feeling that piece, especially the last two sentences. I already got enough headaches with everything else in life, don't need anymore shit.
::eyeroll::
Drama no matter what. It depends on what dramatic role u want to play.
No one I know is livin drama-free regardless.
My Blow-Up Doll gives me drama.....
eyeroll back.
Just in "my experience", which is of course limited.
get yourself the good girl cause when homewife gets older/ uglies up at least you'll still be able to maintain some sort of dignity by association with the girl who was raised right.
I banged my share of "trophy babes" in my day; however, when it came to walking down the aisle "till death do us part," I CHOSE[/b] the "good babe." By the way, we celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary in May.
Peace,
Big Stacks from Kakalak
Yo,
Marriage is a great institution. It SHOULD[/b] be based upon meeting and falling in love with a wonderful person with whom you want to spend the rest of your life. It also means being committed to him or her and no longer have to put your dick on the crap table banging bar flies. You single guys can have that shit, for real!!!
Peace,
Big Stacks from Kakalak
Fiending for obscure records, then going back to the classics?
Naw for real though, I believe that first sentence is key before "choosing" for a good babe.
Peace out Stakalacks. I've spoken too much....(tip toeing my way out of thread)...
Preach Nigga... My wife is a Software Engineer, the other day she said to me, "Ray, I want you to leave your job so that you can stay home and make beats all day..."
let that thought sink in for a minute, not just the making beats all day part but imagine a woman telling you that...
my wife...
But still, why get married for that? What's wrong with being in a committed relationship without involving a court or a church?
Don't get me wrong, I'm a softbatch romantic ass fool. I'd be lying if I said I didn't daydream about sappy ass ways to propose or pulling a smooth move at my best friend's wedding like hoLmes does at the beginning of Love Actually, but overall I just don't necessarily agree with the idea of "the institution."
Hey Herm,
Well, because legally you're not in binding commitment without being married. Just don't be on some lady's lease/mortgage that you're "committed" to (without marriage) when she says "get the F*ck out!!!" Feel me???
Peace,
Big Stacks from Kakalak
I was the *most* "why can't we just live in perfect union unmarried" dude. Then I got married.
It's not the same.
So protection (like condoms) is a necessity?
Preach on, brotha!!! Also, to you nasty pervs lurking in to look at Esther's tits, why don't y'all "man up" and respond? I see all those cotdamn views and only 27 replies. Y'all nastay!!!
Peace,
Big Stacks from Kakalak
But what if it's MY house? Ha ha! All I know is...I'm buying my first house on my own.
Jonny: Please to 'splain to me some more about what makes it different. Not trying to put you on the spot, though, so if it ain't my business it ain't my business, doyouknowwhatI'msaying?