How to effectively tell a guy no
In order to prevent the confusion incompletejigsawpuzzle aka Zeon has been experiencing for the past 2-4 years, give or take, please give me some advice. Judging from the length of Relationship Strut, "getting the message across" seems to be a difficult thing to do. I don't exactly have to beat suiters off with a stick, but I seem to attract strange ones.A couple examples: There was this guy at my previous internship who's really cool, but I knew in first 10 seconds of meeting him that I wasn't attracted. Apparently, he knew in the first 10 seconds of meeting me that he would pursue me as well as he could in a business environment. He asks me to go with him to the driving range, I say no. Asks me to lunch like 3 days in a row, I say no, I'm not interested in going out. Told him politely that his boss prob wouldn't like him flirting with some intern down the hall so he should stop. Calls me "babe" and I tell him to never call me that again, blah blah. Starts calling me "girl-who-doesn't-want-to-be-called babe," etc, etc. It got to the point that this interfered with our friendship and conversations. That internship ended, and so did this little game (for the most part). I tried to be as polite and direct as I could be at work. Was this guy just desperate? Why does no mean "keep trying" to some guys? How do you tell a guy off while salvaging your friendship? Then there's the ex who keeps going on about how I'm the greatest woman he's ever met though we dated a couple years ago when I was a stupid, silly undergrad girl. He even called the cops on me one time so I don't know why he still bothers. I've yelled and screamed that whatever we had was immature and a waste of time, etc. Still, he goes on like a broken record. We barely communicate any more, but whatever interaction we do have leaves me really frustrated. It's like talking to a brick wall, that's how impenetrable he is. I've decided that either pot is more potent a drug than anyone realizes or he's mentally unstable. I'm sure most women (and men) have dealt with very similar scenarios. Some of us, like Zeon, are confused by mixed messages. Are guys so used to women playing games that they don't realize when to stop?PS If you're exhausted by the relationship thread, then don't bother with this one. I'm actually wondering.