prenup strut
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im so far from marriage but with all these enagement posts i am just wondering if any of you guys have prenups. im in my mid 20's and own my crib, and by the time i am ready to get married i think i will have accumulated some assets. the laws now are that the spouse can get half. im not trying to have wifey wake up one day after 4 years and say "its been real but no thanks" and try to take half my loot. maybe i been listening to howard stern too much...
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Yup. Mainly because my wife's house is in her name,and her mother lives there. So she wanted to make sure that remained constant no matter what the future might hold.
Unless you have assload of cash, a prenup is really
not really. I saw my boy who got married, got divorced, and lost almost everything. all for 2 years of marriage. that is
I would have got one, but I didnt have anything before we got married.
Unfortunately in the UK prenups don't hold much water in court, but I think along the same lines as you, home owner etc.
Especially considering some of the horror stories some of my friends have...
i???m not married and don???t ever see myself getting married, but i do live with someone and we???ve accumulated things together. the thought of having to talk about who gets what if we ever split is so distasteful/depressing. the cats alone???
prenups don???t cover custody of children do they? ??? that would be a horrible discussion, too.
Even if you don't own property, there's a good chance you might lose something else of personal value. A guy I know who got divorced lost not only the house he lived in, but his record collection...this wasn't some stash of common REO Speedwagon albums, we're talking rare, collectible, OG, never-see-again R&B 45's here. I don't mean to be unkind, but when I heard that tale I knew right then that a prenuptual agreement was the way to go.
i feel the best-laid plans would go out the window pretty quickly when faced with every other weekend and alternate holidays...
My wife actually told me, "I want you to know that I would never take your records."
I actually had a bit of a struggle with the prenup because it does get to some really cold truths. But it's ultimately a very basic agreement that in the case of a split, we would leave with what we came in with, and split whatever we obtained during the marriage.
It's topics like these that always stirs up my dislike for a small side of feminism. Social equality is just that...not a pick and choose wave the finger bullshit. It's as if this small group of neanderthallish women want to be second class citizens.
i don't understand what you are saying...please elaborate.
A small minority of women prefer second class citizen status. Far right conservative women who reject many of the advances women have made since the late 1800's for example. Generally, in the case of marriage/divorce, the scales tend to tip in favor of women. It is this unbalanced shift that still treats women as second class citizens.
Lets use these simple examples for illustration.
Women who make a ruckus over equal pay, yet expect men to pay the bill(s).
Or a man who always pays the dining check, takes the authorative "caregiver" status. Apply same concept to that of a divorce settlement where the mans loses most what he has put into the relationship (no children involve, both work, only diff. is that one is male/ female),continues the "caregiver" status after divorcing. Am I making sense?
for people that have done it, how do you even go about bringing it up, let alone doing it, without offending the spouse. it just seems like you would be taking back feelings upon entering the marriage, or displaying a sense of distrust towards them. how do you avoid sending the wrong signals?
touchy.
great way to look at it.
but come on. Shit changes.
yeah i can see that happening. im still farely new at life (20) and the longest relationship ive been in is the one im in now (3 years), in which weve never really had a HUGE fight, so its just hard for me to envision things like this going down, without one or more of the people involved obviously being in it for the wrong reasons (GREED) or just a total asshole/bitch. just based on the stories ive heard in this thread, and in real life, when people describe the person who is taking the advantage, it just screams "GET OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP" to me, but feelings and shit get in the way, and cloud your visions and perceptions i suppose.
This could be some serious coin for a big dude collection.
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see my previous post in this thread
yes but i guess i never associate those women with feminism - that's what confused me about your original post.
it's dangerous territory to link equal pay with women who don't pay the bills.
in terms of the scales tipping in favour of women in traditional marriage/divorce - i disagree very strongly.