How did you find yourself in another league, Button? Luck, game, chance?
We'd been acquaintances/distant friends for some time, i think there was always an underlying attraction. The timing just happened to be right I think. "right" for a 3 month fling, wrong for anything more than that obviously. she says we were a rebound relationship, which isn't entirely untrue.
We're really good at being friends, and we're physically attracted to eachother, but
She also says she's not in a place to be in a serious relationship if her partner isn't her 100% soulmate. Which we aren't.
but man, what a fox
Big_Stacks"I don't worry about hittin' power, cause I don't give 'em nuttin' to hit." 4,670 Posts
behemoth said:
i have to agree with Stacks here. i am not an exceptional looking dude. some girls wouldn't even bat an eye at me.
BUT i know from experience that i have pulled some dime pieces but ONLY when i come across as super confident and make it seem as if i get girls similar to them ALL THE TIME
to add something else to the pot there have also been times where i was just on the rough patch of a break up where i don't really want to be out and don't feel confident about anything and i have met women. and they may not even look as good as some in the past but they can smell my confidence and i wasn't really possessing any at the moment...
it is all about portrayal. now either you are a handsome fella or you just have an award winning personality that can do that all the time. you know?
girls like games and you probably played with her a little bit. then again i don't know i am an idiot
Hey,
In addition, I didn't give a shit for the most part, I could take them or leave them. As a single, there were many women available (especially in college environments where I dwelled at the time), so why get all caught up, jumping through hoops for any particular one. If they wanted to get on some ole' golddigger shit, I'd just move along to the next one. The social psychology of it is fascinating, but I got on whether I was in tip-top condition or fat as a muthafucka. :real_headz: It's all in how you come across to the women that matters.
i have to agree with Stacks here. i am not an exceptional looking dude. some girls wouldn't even bat an eye at me.
BUT i know from experience that i have pulled some dime pieces but ONLY when i come across as super confident and make it seem as if i get girls similar to them ALL THE TIME
to add something else to the pot there have also been times where i was just on the rough patch of a break up where i don't really want to be out and don't feel confident about anything and i have met women. and they may not even look as good as some in the past but they can smell my confidence and i wasn't really possessing any at the moment...
it is all about portrayal. now either you are a handsome fella or you just have an award winning personality that can do that all the time. you know?
girls like games and you probably played with her a little bit. then again i don't know i am an idiot
Hey,
In addition, I didn't give a shit for the most part, I could take them or leave them. As a single, there were many women available (especially in college environments where I dwelled at the time), so why get all caught up, jumping through hoops for any particular one. If they wanted to get on some ole' golddigger shit, I'd just move along to the next one. The social psychology of it is fascinating, but I got on whether I was in tip-top condition or fat as a muthafucka. :real_headz: It's all in how you come across to the women that matters.
Peace,
Big Stacks from Kakalak
yep exactly. that was my problem and still is. i am not a player by any means, but i did have fun with a lot of women. after a while i was tired of that and wanted to settle down with someone. do the relationship thing. be able to just relax. go do fun things. movies. dinner. just spending time with one another. not on some sex shit all around town etc.
as soon as a woman showed interest in me no matter how they showed it i got attached thinking "wow she likes me and something will come of this" but women are JUST like men and are thinking the same way like an animal. you show interest back and they aren't interested anymore. i would lose a lot of girls like that...
you have to act like you don't care one bit. unfortunately that has also worked both ways. either you never hear from them or they do actually come around. girls want what they can't have. the psychology is ridiculous. which leads me to believe the only way you are with someone is either a stroke of luck or you share ALL of the same ideals, interests, thoughts...
I'm of course busted up over things ending just like anyone would be, but add to that the extra dimension of losing the flyest female in the area code and suddenly you've got no where to go but down. Did I mention aside from being a near perfect physical specimen (according to my tastes anyways) , she's also is super funny, talented, and turns any where she goes into the party of the month.
she's like lightning in a 5,9 110 lb bottle
everyone else is boring and ugly in comparison
You're sounding mad desperate here. You'll never regain your glory with this attitude.
The easiest way to revive a flagging relationship is to cut off all contact.
That???s it. Cut off all contact. No phone calls, no texts, no emails, no midnight drive-bys at her apartment. Nothing until she re initiates contact with you.
And I guarantee that nine out of ten times she *will* reinitiate contact. Women cannot resist chasing a man who has made himself unavailable. The disappearing act is every man???s ace in the hole; women are nearly powerless to it. They have no defense. All it requires of the man is willpower. If you find it hard to be away from your woman???s pussy for more than a day, then you will have to find substitutes while in the No Contact Zone. A man on top of his game will have other women to service him. Lesser men will need to turn to porn or hookers. Or eat a lot of tofu and lick plastic bottles to lower his testosterone.
Depending on length of relationship and severity of the man???s offense, the No Contact Zone can last anywhere from a couple of days to a month. The beauty of this solution to revive a dying relationship is that even those rare times when she does not re initiate contact you will have saved yourself time and energy dating a woman who was likely to dump you soon anyhow. And on the flimsiest pretext, like getting a smile from a high status bike messenger.
There???s one other thing you must know. If you don???t do this final step the right way then your No Contact Zone game will be for naught. Assuming she re initiates contact (and she likely will), expect her to say something like this:
???Hey there! Haven???t heard from you in a while. What have you been up to????
If your No Contact Zone game hit the mark, you will detect a hint of nervousness in her voice. Congratulations, sir, you have regained hand. BUT??? you can lose it all if you in any way ACKNOWLEDGE the No Contact ruse. Like Fight Club, the first rule is to not talk about it. That means you act as if NOTHING IS UNUSUAL about your calculated time away from her.
???Hey, what???s up! Eh you know, the usual stuff, work, life. Did I tell you about my new hobby? etc etc ???
This will, naturally, drive her mentally insane. Fitfully for us men, mental insanity in women triggers seismic vagina tremors. She will invite herself over for (in her mind) make up sex. Your job is to step aside and let the hamster in her head spin itself to exhaustion as you fornicate to the wee hours.
One more thing. If she presses you on your absence, say by asking ???Why haven???t you called me????, you deny complicity in her frame. In other words, don???t allow yourself to get entrapped by her frame by answering defensively. Either deny her accusation (???You???re very forgetful. I called you a few days ago.???) or reframe the conversation to a focus on her clinginess (???I didn???t know I was supposed to call you every single second of the day. Aw, it???s cute that you think about me so much. Adorable!???)
Played right, No Contact Zone game is absolutely devastating to a woman???s sense of relationship entitlement and her bloated ego.
The easiest way to revive a flagging relationship is to cut off all contact.
That???s it. Cut off all contact. No phone calls, no texts, no emails, no midnight drive-bys at her apartment. Nothing until she re initiates contact with you.
And I guarantee that nine out of ten times she *will* reinitiate contact. Women cannot resist chasing a man who has made himself unavailable. The disappearing act is every man???s ace in the hole; women are nearly powerless to it. They have no defense. All it requires of the man is willpower. If you find it hard to be away from your woman???s pussy for more than a day, then you will have to find substitutes while in the No Contact Zone. A man on top of his game will have other women to service him. Lesser men will need to turn to porn or hookers. Or eat a lot of tofu and lick plastic bottles to lower his testosterone.
Depending on length of relationship and severity of the man???s offense, the No Contact Zone can last anywhere from a couple of days to a month. The beauty of this solution to revive a dying relationship is that even those rare times when she does not re initiate contact you will have saved yourself time and energy dating a woman who was likely to dump you soon anyhow. And on the flimsiest pretext, like getting a smile from a high status bike messenger.
There???s one other thing you must know. If you don???t do this final step the right way then your No Contact Zone game will be for naught. Assuming she re initiates contact (and she likely will), expect her to say something like this:
???Hey there! Haven???t heard from you in a while. What have you been up to????
If your No Contact Zone game hit the mark, you will detect a hint of nervousness in her voice. Congratulations, sir, you have regained hand. BUT??? you can lose it all if you in any way ACKNOWLEDGE the No Contact ruse. Like Fight Club, the first rule is to not talk about it. That means you act as if NOTHING IS UNUSUAL about your calculated time away from her.
???Hey, what???s up! Eh you know, the usual stuff, work, life. Did I tell you about my new hobby? etc etc ???
This will, naturally, drive her mentally insane. Fitfully for us men, mental insanity in women triggers seismic vagina tremors. She will invite herself over for (in her mind) make up sex. Your job is to step aside and let the hamster in her head spin itself to exhaustion as you fornicate to the wee hours.
One more thing. If she presses you on your absence, say by asking ???Why haven???t you called me????, you deny complicity in her frame. In other words, don???t allow yourself to get entrapped by her frame by answering defensively. Either deny her accusation (???You???re very forgetful. I called you a few days ago.???) or reframe the conversation to a focus on her clinginess (???I didn???t know I was supposed to call you every single second of the day. Aw, it???s cute that you think about me so much. Adorable!???)
Played right, No Contact Zone game is absolutely devastating to a woman???s sense of relationship entitlement and her bloated ego.
Please tell me you copy-and-pasted this from somewhere else for laughs.
If you wrote it yourself, I fear for you.
HarveyCanal"a distraction from my main thesis." 13,234 Posts
deej said:
hey harvey ur bitterness will destroy u. buck up kid
It ain't bitter. That's what y'all call it. It's realism I speak. Plus, I've given 20 years to serious relationships since I was 17. That means I've only had 2 years out of all that time to be single. So best believe I'm making the most of it. And that entails running women off nearly as fast as I draw them in. The girls look so good-related.
hey harvey ur bitterness will destroy u. buck up kid
It ain't bitter. That's what y'all call it. It's realism I speak. Plus, I've given 20 years to serious relationships since I was 17. That means I've only had 2 years out of all that time to be single. So best believe I'm making the most of it. And that entails running women off nearly as fast as I draw them in. The girls look so good-related.
Perhaps you are choosing the wrong kind of women. Just a thought.
b/w
Taking my wife out for our 13th anniversary tonight. Been together for 19 years. Loving her more every day. Talking about thankful for what you got.
HarveyCanal"a distraction from my main thesis." 13,234 Posts
DrWu said:
Perhaps you are choosing the wrong kind of women. Just a thought.
Nah, typically when I'm ready to run them off they do in fact run...so they are exactly the right women in that regard.
b/w
Funny how noone believes you when you say you aren't looking to be in a relationship.
i have to agree with Stacks here. i am not an exceptional looking dude. some girls wouldn't even bat an eye at me.
BUT i know from experience that i have pulled some dime pieces but ONLY when i come across as super confident and make it seem as if i get girls similar to them ALL THE TIME
^^^Disciples of...
Back when djmel was doing Krunkaoke, I met this guy who was a regular. Later a friend tells me about that book. I check out dude's blog and find out he is a character in that book.
It was an entertaining read. Made me realize how much I was doing right and fine tuned my game just a bit. I took one home after most of my gigs, but day to day, I wasn't pulling the same. Most of the time my I'm oblivious and doing my thing, until a chick shows her interest, then I pull'em in. If I get her on the lot, I can sell the car. You can't really sell cars door to door.
Shave the dude's head and make the chick taller, that'd like me and my girl.
I figured if Biggie could have Faith and pull quality chicks, so could I. If dude could do that and have a lazy eye, I figured I could too. I don't even have a lazy eye. When in doubt I ask myself WWBD (What Would Biggie Do?). Hell, I I got one now that calls me Big Poppa... and I like it.
I can't post her photo. She sent me them with a strict confidentiality agreements. besides she has like 900 facebook friends and knowing my luck someone on here would recognize her and snitch me out.
I'm of course busted up over things ending just like anyone would be, but add to that the extra dimension of losing the flyest female in the area code and suddenly you've got no where to go but down. Did I mention aside from being a near perfect physical specimen (according to my tastes anyways) , she's also is super funny, talented, and turns any where she goes into the party of the month.
she's like lightning in a 5,9 110 lb bottle
everyone else is boring and ugly in comparison
but i've won women back before, maybe i still have a few miracles left in me
No need to post her photo, I've already seen dozens of skinny, tall and pretty blondes in my lifetime. I wonder how many were natural blondes. I've posted photos of attractive blondes as visual stimuli below for those of us who are tired of reading these lengthy posts. I will assume that your Helen of Troy resembles at least one of them.
But in all seriousness, don't put her up on a pedestal. She may be gorgeous, but so are many, many other women. Every time I step onto my college campus I'm reminded of how many hot men and women are out there. Also, don't assume she is out of your league. If she's as wonderful as you say, then obviously you have an asset she is attracted to. If you're that far below her, then she is stupid for settling for you, and you should dump her for being a poor decision-maker.
Neil Strauss, who wrote "The Game," also wrote the forward to the Mingering Mike book. I think he wrote the article in the NY Times too.
Anyway, that book is a horrible look. Dudes reading it on the subway are spottable from 30 ft away since it looks like a hotel bible. I've heard some sad stories about dudes trying to live by that book to the tee, and any girl worth her boots can see that shit a mile away.
Button,
Honestly, from a dude who has had plenty of his own personal bullshit spread out on this site, man...it just aint the move. The kind of guy who spills his guts on soulstrut is not the kind of guy a real baaad chick is into. Discretion is your friend. And by discretion, i mean keeping certain cards to your chest regardless of the situation. Later for facebook updates and that kind of bullshit. With women, it's really what you DON'T say sometimes. Be on your business, and set some time aside for her if she wants it. If she doesn't, there's nothing you can do. Be a fucking man.
it's sad that you're asking a bunch of record dudes (and some record ladies) advice about splitting with a "out of my league" girlfriend. and then don't have the balls to post pictures. no wonder you can't handle a relationship with this woman. you're either lying to get attention and to make people think you're cool or you're really that dense. i'm going with both.
Curious, what made you think this was the correct forumn to ask these questions? do you think a lot of guys here date girls "way out of their league"? you're a dire chump.
Also, I appreciated people's honest advice, but the jist of original post wasn't how to get someone back or not feel sad. It was how to go back to regular women when you've dated a total bombshell, who wants to get it on 24hrs a day, and is never a hormonal bitch.
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You'll be fighting her off with a shitty stick within days.
I don't think so.
This post is a clear sign that shit is irrevocably over.
Ha! Sort of a corollary of the "the woman you are lucklessly pursuing will start jocking you if you stop paying attention to her" theorem.
b/w
"You can't break up with me! I have hand!"
We'd been acquaintances/distant friends for some time, i think there was always an underlying attraction. The timing just happened to be right I think. "right" for a 3 month fling, wrong for anything more than that obviously. she says we were a rebound relationship, which isn't entirely untrue.
We're really good at being friends, and we're physically attracted to eachother, but
She also says she's not in a place to be in a serious relationship if her partner isn't her 100% soulmate. Which we aren't.
but man, what a fox
Hey,
In addition, I didn't give a shit for the most part, I could take them or leave them. As a single, there were many women available (especially in college environments where I dwelled at the time), so why get all caught up, jumping through hoops for any particular one. If they wanted to get on some ole' golddigger shit, I'd just move along to the next one. The social psychology of it is fascinating, but I got on whether I was in tip-top condition or fat as a muthafucka. :real_headz: It's all in how you come across to the women that matters.
Peace,
Big Stacks from Kakalak
yep exactly. that was my problem and still is. i am not a player by any means, but i did have fun with a lot of women. after a while i was tired of that and wanted to settle down with someone. do the relationship thing. be able to just relax. go do fun things. movies. dinner. just spending time with one another. not on some sex shit all around town etc.
as soon as a woman showed interest in me no matter how they showed it i got attached thinking "wow she likes me and something will come of this" but women are JUST like men and are thinking the same way like an animal. you show interest back and they aren't interested anymore. i would lose a lot of girls like that...
you have to act like you don't care one bit. unfortunately that has also worked both ways. either you never hear from them or they do actually come around. girls want what they can't have. the psychology is ridiculous. which leads me to believe the only way you are with someone is either a stroke of luck or you share ALL of the same ideals, interests, thoughts...
life sucks sometimes.
social experiments are the worst
You're sounding mad desperate here. You'll never regain your glory with this attitude.
Simple.
The easiest way to revive a flagging relationship is to cut off all contact.
That???s it. Cut off all contact. No phone calls, no texts, no emails, no midnight drive-bys at her apartment. Nothing until she re initiates contact with you.
And I guarantee that nine out of ten times she *will* reinitiate contact. Women cannot resist chasing a man who has made himself unavailable. The disappearing act is every man???s ace in the hole; women are nearly powerless to it. They have no defense. All it requires of the man is willpower. If you find it hard to be away from your woman???s pussy for more than a day, then you will have to find substitutes while in the No Contact Zone. A man on top of his game will have other women to service him. Lesser men will need to turn to porn or hookers. Or eat a lot of tofu and lick plastic bottles to lower his testosterone.
Depending on length of relationship and severity of the man???s offense, the No Contact Zone can last anywhere from a couple of days to a month. The beauty of this solution to revive a dying relationship is that even those rare times when she does not re initiate contact you will have saved yourself time and energy dating a woman who was likely to dump you soon anyhow. And on the flimsiest pretext, like getting a smile from a high status bike messenger.
There???s one other thing you must know. If you don???t do this final step the right way then your No Contact Zone game will be for naught. Assuming she re initiates contact (and she likely will), expect her to say something like this:
???Hey there! Haven???t heard from you in a while. What have you been up to????
If your No Contact Zone game hit the mark, you will detect a hint of nervousness in her voice. Congratulations, sir, you have regained hand. BUT??? you can lose it all if you in any way ACKNOWLEDGE the No Contact ruse. Like Fight Club, the first rule is to not talk about it. That means you act as if NOTHING IS UNUSUAL about your calculated time away from her.
???Hey, what???s up! Eh you know, the usual stuff, work, life. Did I tell you about my new hobby? etc etc ???
This will, naturally, drive her mentally insane. Fitfully for us men, mental insanity in women triggers seismic vagina tremors. She will invite herself over for (in her mind) make up sex. Your job is to step aside and let the hamster in her head spin itself to exhaustion as you fornicate to the wee hours.
One more thing. If she presses you on your absence, say by asking ???Why haven???t you called me????, you deny complicity in her frame. In other words, don???t allow yourself to get entrapped by her frame by answering defensively. Either deny her accusation (???You???re very forgetful. I called you a few days ago.???) or reframe the conversation to a focus on her clinginess (???I didn???t know I was supposed to call you every single second of the day. Aw, it???s cute that you think about me so much. Adorable!???)
Played right, No Contact Zone game is absolutely devastating to a woman???s sense of relationship entitlement and her bloated ego.
:nagl:
Please tell me you copy-and-pasted this from somewhere else for laughs.
If you wrote it yourself, I fear for you.
It ain't bitter. That's what y'all call it. It's realism I speak. Plus, I've given 20 years to serious relationships since I was 17. That means I've only had 2 years out of all that time to be single. So best believe I'm making the most of it. And that entails running women off nearly as fast as I draw them in. The girls look so good-related.
Perhaps you are choosing the wrong kind of women. Just a thought.
b/w
Taking my wife out for our 13th anniversary tonight. Been together for 19 years. Loving her more every day. Talking about thankful for what you got.
Nah, typically when I'm ready to run them off they do in fact run...so they are exactly the right women in that regard.
b/w
Funny how noone believes you when you say you aren't looking to be in a relationship.
Back when djmel was doing Krunkaoke, I met this guy who was a regular. Later a friend tells me about that book. I check out dude's blog and find out he is a character in that book.
It was an entertaining read. Made me realize how much I was doing right and fine tuned my game just a bit. I took one home after most of my gigs, but day to day, I wasn't pulling the same. Most of the time my I'm oblivious and doing my thing, until a chick shows her interest, then I pull'em in. If I get her on the lot, I can sell the car. You can't really sell cars door to door.
Shave the dude's head and make the chick taller, that'd like me and my girl.
I figured if Biggie could have Faith and pull quality chicks, so could I. If dude could do that and have a lazy eye, I figured I could too. I don't even have a lazy eye. When in doubt I ask myself WWBD (What Would Biggie Do?). Hell, I I got one now that calls me Big Poppa... and I like it.
Charisma and a sense of humor go along way.
*edit*
No need to post her photo, I've already seen dozens of skinny, tall and pretty blondes in my lifetime. I wonder how many were natural blondes. I've posted photos of attractive blondes as visual stimuli below for those of us who are tired of reading these lengthy posts. I will assume that your Helen of Troy resembles at least one of them.
But in all seriousness, don't put her up on a pedestal. She may be gorgeous, but so are many, many other women. Every time I step onto my college campus I'm reminded of how many hot men and women are out there. Also, don't assume she is out of your league. If she's as wonderful as you say, then obviously you have an asset she is attracted to. If you're that far below her, then she is stupid for settling for you, and you should dump her for being a poor decision-maker.
Move up to rich older women that are lonely!!
Hey Shooterali,
Indeed, vets (older babes) are where it's at. I could tell stories for days from the batchelor era. :real_headz:
Peace,
Big Stacks from Kakalak
Anyway, that book is a horrible look. Dudes reading it on the subway are spottable from 30 ft away since it looks like a hotel bible. I've heard some sad stories about dudes trying to live by that book to the tee, and any girl worth her boots can see that shit a mile away.
Button,
Honestly, from a dude who has had plenty of his own personal bullshit spread out on this site, man...it just aint the move. The kind of guy who spills his guts on soulstrut is not the kind of guy a real baaad chick is into. Discretion is your friend. And by discretion, i mean keeping certain cards to your chest regardless of the situation. Later for facebook updates and that kind of bullshit. With women, it's really what you DON'T say sometimes. Be on your business, and set some time aside for her if she wants it. If she doesn't, there's nothing you can do. Be a fucking man.
Curious, what made you think this was the correct forumn to ask these questions? do you think a lot of guys here date girls "way out of their league"? you're a dire chump.