man, when Im to that point in life, i may adopt your philosophy. Right now, I dont mind taking a girl out to eat and shit. Come on! Personally, as long as I can get by, I actually would rather spend my money out having a good time, or even doing nice things for other people rather than hording records or some shit.
Nobody said you can't take a woman out to eat, young fella. But she can take YOUR ass out to eat, too! You get what I'm sayin'? DON'T BE A SUCKER. Or be a sucker, shiiiiit... if that's what makes you happy, do your thing, son! Plenty of women out there are looking for dudes who like being suckers. In fact, you'll probably be very popular with the ladies with that philosophy! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!!!!
"Chuch"
thats fine. call me a sucker cause I wont treat women like Im some kind of pimp. I dont have shit to prove, But all that money before bitches talk sounds pretty weird coming from 3 married dudes. I really feel sorry for you if you'd still put money first before your wife.
Money is a necessity to me, but i sure as fuck dont love it. It helps me live comfortably and do the things I want to do, but beyond that Ill put people before money any day. Mabye thats different than "bitches", I dont know.
Im not out there throwing cash at hoes though, dont get it twisted. I wont even go to the strip club really. I dont usually associate with the type of women that would hang around because my money is long....mostly because my money is not, and it hasnt been a problem thus far. Sometimes this is challenging when you live in hollywood, but then im not out there making pornos or whatever either. Ive been with girls thats been paying for all my food one week when Ive been hard up for cash, Ive also turned around and helped out with and electric bill when Ive had the extra bread. Its give and take man. Ebb and flow. Money is like energy, and if you never put it out there, its not likely to come back to you.
But man, dont be thinking spending money is gonna get you any more ass than not. thats true in almost any situation.
Dog... you are missing the point totally. We are trying to school you on what's really good, youngin'! Don't get all offended, the "pimp" and "sucker" talk is just jokes. The science is real, though! If you think money is more important to me than the woman I am married to, you are not understanding me. My wife is priceless. STILL, I am not gonna be a sucker to her or ANY woman! You gotta have rules of conduct, son... even good women will take you for your dough to some degree if you behave like a sucker. Trust me, I've done the experiments. And just to be clear, men will take advantage of a woman too if they let him- it works the same both ways, I'm not trying to make it seem like women are these evil creatures or anything. The difference is that most woman know the deal and understand that most men are weak for poon! And they use that to their advantage, as damn well they should- they aren't playing on a level playing field in this world that we live in, so they're smart enough to turn the tables completely around! But if you let it happen to you, no woman is really gonna respect that, dude. Instead of getting your feelings hurt over what's being said you need to just listen and take notes. Me, Stacks and Danny D-Rock are VETERANOS in the game, this is years of experience talking to you right now. You should be thanking us for taking you to chuch, young man! Keep listening to us and this could be you one day, shorty...
I hear you. I understand that ANYONE will take advantage of you if you let them. Trust me bro, I dont have any money at all. If a girl is messing with me, its not cause im buying her shit. I also understand the whole bitches aint shit mentality, and I know the type of girls that like that kind of attention. I just dont give a shit anyway so it doesnt really apply. DOnt worry about me, im not getting suckered by any girls. Ive been pimped myself in a few nasty buisiness situations, and its left me with about 0 trust for anybody, but I dont think the behavior you're talking about is limited to women. ANd I dont hold any type of respect for a real pimp. To me thats just a lowlife piece of shit that feeds off peoples weaknesses. Im not catching any feelings, im just saying I dont care to be taken to chuurrrch or whatever.
Yeah, yeah...Y'all dudes wanna talk all that shit but you forget one important point: Real ballas know they gots to pay* to play, plain and simple.
*Whether it comes to women, real estate, investments, etc.
Big_Stacks"I don't worry about hittin' power, cause I don't give 'em nuttin' to hit." 4,670 Posts
Hey B-Sides,
My point in all this discussion is that money matters are serious. Early on in a serious relationship, the rules need to be laid down. Here is a case in point. Early on in my marriage, wifey sent $500 to her moms for some reason without my awareness. This was NOT COOL, so I had to speak to wifey about that. What I said is that if either of us is going to spend a significant amount of money, we need to discuss it with one another FIRST. That same shit applies to me. If I come home with a big screen T.V. and she doesn't know about it, that's foul. This doesn't really apply to gifts for each other (though we expect each other to use good judgment about a reasonable amount of money to spend), but self-indulgent, big money purchases MUST be discussed first. That way, no one is wilin' out spending large amounts of money with no checks and balances on some ole' DL shady shit.
My wife and I share accounts, but like Laserwolf pointed out, it's about mutual respect. A crab that spends up your loot with no regard is FOUL, and you shouldn't fuck with her. A real woman wouldn't take advantage like that. It's not about pimp playerism or anything, but real regard for your mate and your collective financial stability. Got it???
Joint accounts can be useful tho. When I moved in with my fiance we got one. We only use it for gas, food, eating out together, rent, and other group related things. strik'ly no shoe or record buying binges. 2 years on and things financially couldn't be better.
The upside (downside?): my own account is a slush fund to go from my paycheck to records.....
My point in all this discussion is that money matters are serious. Early on in a serious relationship, the rules need to be laid down. Here is a case in point. Early on in my marriage, wifey sent $500 to her moms for some reason without my awareness. This was NOT COOL, so I had to speak to wifey about that. What I said is that if either of us is going to spend a significant amount of money, we need to discuss it with one another FIRST. That same shit applies to me. If I come home with a big screen T.V. and she doesn't know about it, that's foul. This doesn't really apply to gifts for each other (though we expect each other to use good judgment about a reasonable amount of money to spend), but self-indulgent, big money purchases MUST be discussed first. That way, no one is wilin' out spending large amounts of money with no checks and balances on some ole' DL shady shit.
My wife and I share accounts, but like Laserwolf pointed out, it's about mutual respect. A crab that spends up your loot with no regard is FOUL, and you shouldn't fuck with her. A real woman wouldn't take advantage like that. It's not about pimp playerism or anything, but real regard for your mate and your collective financial stability. Got it???
Peace,
Big Stacks from Kakalak
yeah, totally. this just sounds alot different than what you were saying a minute ago. Anyway, whatever, im done with this discussion. I dont know why I keep posting on it.
Man, B-sides, just get you one of these cups and you won't have any problems with the ladies EVER. Coselmed knows the deal... don't worry ma, I won't give out all the secrets! (wink wink)
Man, B-sides, just get you one of these cups and you won't have any problems with the ladies EVER. Coselmed knows the deal... don't worry ma, I won't give out all the secrets! (wink wink)
haha, all right man. Let me get some gators on and shit too and watch these bitches sweat.
Big_Stacks"I don't worry about hittin' power, cause I don't give 'em nuttin' to hit." 4,670 Posts
Hey B-Sides,
My point in all this discussion is that money matters are serious. Early on in a serious relationship, the rules need to be laid down. Here is a case in point. Early on in my marriage, wifey sent $500 to her moms for some reason without my awareness. This was NOT COOL, so I had to speak to wifey about that. What I said is that if either of us is going to spend a significant amount of money, we need to discuss it with one another FIRST. That same shit applies to me. If I come home with a big screen T.V. and she doesn't know about it, that's foul. This doesn't really apply to gifts for each other (though we expect each other to use good judgment about a reasonable amount of money to spend), but self-indulgent, big money purchases MUST be discussed first. That way, no one is wilin' out spending large amounts of money with no checks and balances on some ole' DL shady shit.
My wife and I share accounts, but like Laserwolf pointed out, it's about mutual respect. A crab that spends up your loot with no regard is FOUL, and you shouldn't fuck with her. A real woman wouldn't take advantage like that. It's not about pimp playerism or anything, but real regard for your mate and your collective financial stability. Got it???
Peace,
Big Stacks from Kakalak
yeah, totally. this just sounds alot different than what you were saying a minute ago. Anyway, whatever, im done with this discussion. I dont know why I keep posting on it.
Hey B-Sides,
No, this is exactly what I was sayin' earlier. I would not become seriously involved with a woman that was sorry and not financially prudent. Not surpringly, these are the type of women that only have their pussy to barter. All of what I was saying goes together in that a wise woman is responsible with finances and will in all likelihood have a lot going for her. Chickens aren't good with finances and will take your money in exchange for a BJ and think that's OK. Fuck that!!!!
My point in all this discussion is that money matters are serious. Early on in a serious relationship, the rules need to be laid down. Here is a case in point. Early on in my marriage, wifey sent $500 to her moms for some reason without my awareness. This was NOT COOL, so I had to speak to wifey about that. What I said is that if either of us is going to spend a significant amount of money, we need to discuss it with one another FIRST. That same shit applies to me. If I come home with a big screen T.V. and she doesn't know about it, that's foul. This doesn't really apply to gifts for each other (though we expect each other to use good judgment about a reasonable amount of money to spend), but self-indulgent, big money purchases MUST be discussed first. That way, no one is wilin' out spending large amounts of money with no checks and balances on some ole' DL shady shit.
My wife and I share accounts, but like Laserwolf pointed out, it's about mutual respect. A crab that spends up your loot with no regard is FOUL, and you shouldn't fuck with her. A real woman wouldn't take advantage like that. It's not about pimp playerism or anything, but real regard for your mate and your collective financial stability. Got it???
Peace,
Big Stacks from Kakalak
yeah, totally. this just sounds alot different than what you were saying a minute ago. Anyway, whatever, im done with this discussion. I dont know why I keep posting on it.
Hey B-Sides,
No, this is exactly what I was sayin' earlier. I would not become seriously involved with a woman that was sorry and not financially prudent. Not surpringly, these are the type of women that only have their pussy to barter. All of what I was saying goes together in that a wise woman is responsible with finances and will in all likelihood have a lot going for her. Chickens aren't good with finances and will take your money in exchange for a BJ and think that's OK. Fuck that!!!!
Peace,
Big Stacks from Kakalak
PIMP PIMP HURRAY!!!!!!!!!!! This is just like when you was a kid and your parents would tell you stuff and you just didn't want to do what they said because you thought you knew better but end up realizing 10 years later they were right!
My point in all this discussion is that money matters are serious. Early on in a serious relationship, the rules need to be laid down. Here is a case in point. Early on in my marriage, wifey sent $500 to her moms for some reason without my awareness. This was NOT COOL, so I had to speak to wifey about that. What I said is that if either of us is going to spend a significant amount of money, we need to discuss it with one another FIRST. That same shit applies to me. If I come home with a big screen T.V. and she doesn't know about it, that's foul. This doesn't really apply to gifts for each other (though we expect each other to use good judgment about a reasonable amount of money to spend), but self-indulgent, big money purchases MUST be discussed first. That way, no one is wilin' out spending large amounts of money with no checks and balances on some ole' DL shady shit.
My wife and I share accounts, but like Laserwolf pointed out, it's about mutual respect. A crab that spends up your loot with no regard is FOUL, and you shouldn't fuck with her. A real woman wouldn't take advantage like that. It's not about pimp playerism or anything, but real regard for your mate and your collective financial stability. Got it???
Peace,
Big Stacks from Kakalak
yeah, totally. this just sounds alot different than what you were saying a minute ago. Anyway, whatever, im done with this discussion. I dont know why I keep posting on it.
Hey B-Sides,
No, this is exactly what I was sayin' earlier. I would not become seriously involved with a woman that was sorry and not financially prudent. Not surpringly, these are the type of women that only have their pussy to barter. All of what I was saying goes together in that a wise woman is responsible with finances and will in all likelihood have a lot going for her. Chickens aren't good with finances and will take your money in exchange for a BJ and think that's OK. Fuck that!!!!
Peace,
Big Stacks from Kakalak
PIMP PIMP HURRAY!!!!!!!!!!! This is just like when you was a kid and your parents would tell you stuff and you just didn't want to do what they said because you thought you knew better but end up realizing 10 years later they were right!
aight, fine. never again will I put women before money. Happy now? Lesson learned.
You know my wife and I have seprate accounts, people always thought I was lame for doing it but you know what, it has worked out for the best... I spend my loot whenever and she don't say anything as long as I pay my part of the bills which is straight down the middle...
Word Mango. We got three accounts. Her account, my account and a savings account for vacation money. Wifey has a good job and makes a lot more money than I do anyway. We just make sure the rent and the bills are covered and it's all good. I would NEVER say anything about her spending habits. She works hard and earns good money. She ALWAYS looks good in all her designer clothes so I'm not mad at all. $300.00 on a new pair of Gucci shoes, word up. If she's happy, I'm happy. Gucci, Hermes, Cartier, Bally, ALL GOOD. It's just money. The government will keep printing it and you can keep getting it. Spend it and have a good time.
Right now, I dont mind taking a girl out to eat and shit. Come on! Personally, as long as I can get by, I actually would rather spend my money out having a good time, or even doing nice things for other people rather than hording records or some shit.
If it's a girl you respect and like then yeah man a dinner or a gift ain't nothing to a boss, but if you know the girls fast then you're a sucker for even trying to treat her like a lady. A real lady won't do anything sideways for money and will be empowered to make her own living in the world.
buuuuuuuttttttt I will say that all women do expect to be taken care of somewhat, some expect very little and some obviously expect to be kept.
thank god I got me a fine girl that I aint gotta worry about going out and buying gucci bags and shit. That shit is pretty fly I guess..but only if you are really BALLING like that..and we aint. I guess them parents just raised her right. She is the most hard working girl I have ever met..and I can see she gets it from her mom. To me..that is way hotter than wearing coochie cutters and licking lips.=(whether it be hers OR other bitches)
Hilarious! Check it out.............This is game right here to be sold. I had this test I used to do. When I would bring a chick home after a night of partying I would leave a $20 bill somewhere and go to the bathroom. When I came back I would see if the chick swiped it or if it was still there. That would tell me something about her character. If it was gone I would simply open the door and tell the chick to beat it. I had this girl outside my door in the cold telling me she lived far and had no way to get home etc. etc. I told her use the $20 she stole for cab fair! Real deal holyfield. On a side note I had this chick once and she was the truth! After a night of partying and doing the do, I told her the next morning open the top dresser drawer and grab $25 for cab fair, her response was "I'm not a ho" I don't need your money and she bounced! That is what I'm talking about!!!!!!!!!!
I see a lot of my hommies out here so dedicated and committed to "not tricking" and they might not be tricking off loot but they are definitely tricking off their time on ladies instead of doin something contructive that would increase their own yaper situation. Dealing with a lot of bullshit to fuck with a girl is a lot worse than spending some yaper.
I see a lot of my hommies out here so dedicated and committed to "not tricking" and they might not be tricking off loot but they are definitely tricking off their time on ladies instead of doin something contructive that would increase their own yaper situation. Dealing with a lot of bullshit to fuck with a girl is a lot worse than spending some yaper.
this I have been guilty of. But I dont really mess with alot of girls, so when I find one thats worth it, I do enjoy spending time getting to know someone. Any relationship thats really worth its weight requires an equally large expenditure of time and energy. And its true I could be spending all that on getting money, but to me its a worthy trade off. Its just all about balance.
And making damned sure that you put your love in the right places.
Hilarious! Check it out.............This is game right here to be sold. I had this test I used to do. When I would bring a chick home after a night of partying I would leave a $20 bill somewhere and go to the bathroom. When I came back I would see if the chick swiped it or if it was still there. That would tell me something about her character. If it was gone I would simply open the door and tell the chick to beat it. I had this girl outside my door in the cold telling me she lived far and had no way to get home etc. etc. I told her use the $20 she stole for cab fair! Real deal holyfield. On a side note I had this chick once and she was the truth! After a night of partying and doing the do, I told her the next morning open the top dresser drawer and grab $25 for cab fair, her response was "I'm not a ho" I don't need your money and she bounced! That is what I'm talking about!!!!!!!!!!
I dont know, mabye its just different types of girls were talking about here, but in my experience, girls are very rarely out to get my money. Certainly not no $20!!! Honestly Ive never really been concerned that the girl I just slept with is gonna steal shit when I go to the bathroom!!!
This one time though I thought this girl had taken some of my weed that I left at her apartment. I asked if i had left any there and she said no. Anyways, I went to pack the bowl the next time I was over at her place and I found it in her stash box! I didnt say anything immediately, but I made some backhanded comment about it later on that night, and she was like "what are you talking about?" And I was like "my weed, that you took", kinda joking even. Anyways, I laid out how I found it in her stash box, and she just looked at me like I was the biggest dick ever. Next day I found the missing weed at home, and realized what an asshole id been, and how I fucked things up between us.
You ever wonder if a real pimp has problems trusting women? Even the woman he might call his wife? Or at least his main bitch? How do you ever fall in love with a woman if theres no trust there? Mabye thats why so many real life "pimps" prefer same sex partners in their personal life. Walking around in pink silk shirts talking shit about women like its not obvious.
You ever wonder if a real pimp has problems trusting women?
Not to completely derail this thread, but I've wondered the same thing about police officers. If you spend each working day watching for the worst in humanity, that mindset has to spill over into your personal life. Doesn't seem like something you can turn off and "leave work at the office" or whatever kinda shat. Anybody have experience with or know people that have this issue? It's always something I've been curious about.
You ever wonder if a real pimp has problems trusting women?
Not to completely derail this thread, but I've wondered the same thing about police officers. If you spend each working day watching for the worst in humanity, that mindset has to spill over into your personal life. Doesn't seem like something you can turn off and "leave work at the office" or whatever kinda shat. Anybody have experience with or know people that have this issue? It's always something I've been curious about.
I haven't read anything specific to police officers, but spousal abuse is pretty common in the military for the reasons you describe. An increase in spousal homicides after soldiers return from war has also been documented.
You ever wonder if a real pimp has problems trusting women?
Not to completely derail this thread, but I've wondered the same thing about police officers. If you spend each working day watching for the worst in humanity, that mindset has to spill over into your personal life. Doesn't seem like something you can turn off and "leave work at the office" or whatever kinda shat. Anybody have experience with or know people that have this issue? It's always something I've been curious about.
I haven't read anything specific to police officers, but spousal abuse is pretty common in the military for the reasons you describe. An increase in spousal homicides after soldiers return from war has also been documented.
Police officers too. Divorce rate is very high. The spouse of officers are under a lot of stress worring about their safty. Officer under a lot of stress dealing with the worse of humanity everyday. Makes our petty $$ worries seem kinda insignificant.
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Money is bad
But it's legal
I don't belive that, I just like the way it sounds.
18 years, joint accounts, no problems, just mutual respect.
Dan
I hear you. I understand that ANYONE will take advantage of you if you let them. Trust me bro, I dont have any money at all. If a girl is messing with me, its not cause im buying her shit. I also understand the whole bitches aint shit mentality, and I know the type of girls that like that kind of attention. I just dont give a shit anyway so it doesnt really apply. DOnt worry about me, im not getting suckered by any girls. Ive been pimped myself in a few nasty buisiness situations, and its left me with about 0 trust for anybody, but I dont think the behavior you're talking about is limited to women. ANd I dont hold any type of respect for a real pimp. To me thats just a lowlife piece of shit that feeds off peoples weaknesses. Im not catching any feelings, im just saying I dont care to be taken to chuurrrch or whatever.
*Whether it comes to women, real estate, investments, etc.
My point in all this discussion is that money matters are serious. Early on in a serious relationship, the rules need to be laid down. Here is a case in point. Early on in my marriage, wifey sent $500 to her moms for some reason without my awareness. This was NOT COOL, so I had to speak to wifey about that. What I said is that if either of us is going to spend a significant amount of money, we need to discuss it with one another FIRST. That same shit applies to me. If I come home with a big screen T.V. and she doesn't know about it, that's foul. This doesn't really apply to gifts for each other (though we expect each other to use good judgment about a reasonable amount of money to spend), but self-indulgent, big money purchases MUST be discussed first. That way, no one is wilin' out spending large amounts of money with no checks and balances on some ole' DL shady shit.
My wife and I share accounts, but like Laserwolf pointed out, it's about mutual respect. A crab that spends up your loot with no regard is FOUL, and you shouldn't fuck with her. A real woman wouldn't take advantage like that. It's not about pimp playerism or anything, but real regard for your mate and your collective financial stability. Got it???
Peace,
Big Stacks from Kakalak
The upside (downside?): my own account is a slush fund to go from my paycheck to records.....
yeah, totally. this just sounds alot different than what you were saying a minute ago. Anyway, whatever, im done with this discussion. I dont know why I keep posting on it.
haha, all right man. Let me get some gators on and shit too and watch these bitches sweat.
Hey B-Sides,
No, this is exactly what I was sayin' earlier. I would not become seriously involved with a woman that was sorry and not financially prudent. Not surpringly, these are the type of women that only have their pussy to barter. All of what I was saying goes together in that a wise woman is responsible with finances and will in all likelihood have a lot going for her. Chickens aren't good with finances and will take your money in exchange for a BJ and think that's OK. Fuck that!!!!
Peace,
Big Stacks from Kakalak
PIMP PIMP HURRAY!!!!!!!!!!! This is just like when you was a kid and your parents would tell you stuff and you just didn't want to do what they said because you thought you knew better but end up realizing 10 years later they were right!
aight, fine. never again will I put women before money. Happy now? Lesson learned.
Word Mango. We got three accounts. Her account, my account and a savings account for vacation money. Wifey has a good job and makes a lot more money than I do anyway. We just make sure the rent and the bills are covered and it's all good. I would NEVER say anything about her spending habits. She works hard and earns good money. She ALWAYS looks good in all her designer clothes so I'm not mad at all. $300.00 on a new pair of Gucci shoes, word up. If she's happy, I'm happy. Gucci, Hermes, Cartier, Bally, ALL GOOD. It's just money. The government will keep printing it and you can keep getting it. Spend it and have a good time.
True, true, true. Wise words from Bsizzle.
"The government will keep printing it and you can keep getting it"
That's what I'm talkin' about!
buuuuuuuttttttt I will say that all women do expect to be taken care of somewhat, some expect very little and some obviously expect to be kept.hate me now [/b]Showing my biterness about an ex=not a good look
this I have been guilty of. But I dont really mess with alot of girls, so when I find one thats worth it, I do enjoy spending time getting to know someone. Any relationship thats really worth its weight requires an equally large expenditure of time and energy. And its true I could be spending all that on getting money, but to me its a worthy trade off. Its just all about balance.
And making damned sure that you put your love in the right places.
I dont know, mabye its just different types of girls were talking about here, but in my experience, girls are very rarely out to get my money. Certainly not no $20!!! Honestly Ive never really been concerned that the girl I just slept with is gonna steal shit when I go to the bathroom!!!
This one time though I thought this girl had taken some of my weed that I left at her apartment. I asked if i had left any there and she said no. Anyways, I went to pack the bowl the next time I was over at her place and I found it in her stash box! I didnt say anything immediately, but I made some backhanded comment about it later on that night, and she was like "what are you talking about?" And I was like "my weed, that you took", kinda joking even. Anyways, I laid out how I found it in her stash box, and she just looked at me like I was the biggest dick ever. Next day I found the missing weed at home, and realized what an asshole id been, and how I fucked things up between us.
You ever wonder if a real pimp has problems trusting women? Even the woman he might call his wife? Or at least his main bitch? How do you ever fall in love with a woman if theres no trust there? Mabye thats why so many real life "pimps" prefer same sex partners in their personal life. Walking around in pink silk shirts talking shit about women like its not obvious.
Not to completely derail this thread, but I've wondered the same thing about police officers. If you spend each working day watching for the worst in humanity, that mindset has to spill over into your personal life. Doesn't seem like something you can turn off and "leave work at the office" or whatever kinda shat. Anybody have experience with or know people that have this issue? It's always something I've been curious about.
so.....yeah...completely off topic. nice!
I haven't read anything specific to police officers, but spousal abuse is pretty common in the military for the reasons you describe. An increase in spousal homicides after soldiers return from war has also been documented.
Police officers too. Divorce rate is very high. The spouse of officers are under a lot of stress worring about their safty. Officer under a lot of stress dealing with the worse of humanity everyday. Makes our petty $$ worries seem kinda insignificant.