Internet Relationships: What the Deal Is?
rootlesscosmo
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My boy is constantly sleeping with chicks he meets online. I guess that's a common occurrence.But how many of y'all have met quality girls/guys and/or gotten into REAL relationships off the internet?
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i met a girl on friendster who is now one of my dearest friends. no love connection tho.
peace, stein. . .
She's the one.
Cosign!Too busy makin real world moves...chillin @ soulstrut is already enuff....
It's true I tell ya!
I think dating sites are a great resource, especially if you life in a highly populated area.
They don't take the place of "going out to a bar and meeting someone" but they can be a supplement. Plus you can search by whatever criteria you want. It's almost like shopping.
Tip - work hard on your own profile - things usually work out better when the girl chooses the boy. I even searched through other guy's profiles to get ideas.
None of the guys I know admit to using it (All the women I know that use it do). But I know 1 that does. He went out on a date with another friend of mine HA!
A friend of mine in Baltimore has used eHarmony and he loves it. I think he just started dating someone seriously that he met through there.
If I was back in the dating game, I would most def use it as ONE avenue along with other methods(like going out, meeting friends of friends, organizations,etc)...I mean, people act like the oNLY way to meet someone is this contrived "I-saw-her-across-a-crowded-room" BS or hittin' it after a night of getting drunk in a club and turning that into a lifetime of shared experience and values!
Give me a break!
I like for things to just happen.
AYO?
Get your profile game up, fellas!
I understand, but NOTHING really 'just happens'. I guess this is just another avenue, like if you move to a new town, friends give you numbers/names of folks who live in the area, networking. I mean, you can hollar at girls all day, maybe even get some digits, but it's what happens when the conversation begins that matters. Internet stuff is just one more way of getting those digits and seeing where things go.
I think that people who put any MORE faith in it than that are asking for dissapointment.
oh for sure. But I guess what I mean is this:
If I went through profiles I would be more likely to check out a chick that is like me. Then throug conversation whatever happens happens.
With my wife, if her profile was on the dating site, I would NEVER have picked it. But that is waht I like. we are very different with interests and whatnot, but I like that because it keeps things interesting for both of us. Our moral and political views are completly in line. and that is great.
Our relationship just kind of happened. I dont think it would have worked out any other way, but once again, that is just me.
If someone met their special someone that way, FUCKIN GREAT.
AYO.
Proper usage.
"After further review, the call on the field stands. First down!"
now I just meet them on porn sets... I feel like I switched to Geico and saved a ton of money on my car insurance.
On the other side of the coin, I met my girl on Friendster, almost 2 years ago. She was a friend of a good friend, so it wasn't so random, but given there would have been almost no chance of us meeting otherwise. It was just another avenue to communicate with people within a circle of friends.
Basically "internet dating" can be as basic or complicated as you make it. Choose wisely.
Don't get me wrong. Whatever works... I bet it's great to use. The only thing thats shiftie though, is people that lie like crazy. Just the other day, one of my friends txt me and is like "Plz call me right now!!!" So, I call her and I'm like "Yeah?" Then she goes on.. "Hey Mom... Really?? OK.. I am... Right now..."
Then hung up.
Calls me 20 mins later. And tells me about how he told her he was 28 and Maltese. When she showed up, he was in his fifties and Indian.
I can see lying about 4-5 years... But over 20?
But, if thats how you meet ur mate, Nobody should player hate!
Seriously, though, I think what you said is very good advice--I am always amazed at the quality of people's Myspace profiles and stuff like that. People should approach it more strategically, like a job or college application, with of course a slightly different goal: establishing yourself as the most interesting and desirable person in the game.
Like how I strategically established myself as the most interesting and desirable person on SoulStrut.
hows that payin off for ya?
you must be looking at a different myspace than me.
95% of people have unique color schemes and ESURVEYZ on their pages. this is not a good look to me.
Same story with me and my wife...and I am glad it happened the way it did. You are completely correct about the 'opposites attract' factor.
I think if I were in it now, as opposed to 7 years ago, the internet situation is a lot better than it was, and has changed 'dating services' mostly for the better.
It's an efficient screening tool, I'll give you that.
Yeah, nothing will ever replace an evening full of alcoholic, chain-smoking semi-prostitutes.
I think he was referring to "dating" and "relationships", not acting like a human petrie dish growing crotch-rotting STDs.
What are those?