Is your lady over 40? You best be givin it to her
PATX
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http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2009/feb/04/fortysomething-women-sexAt 48, Philippa is vivacious, attractive and is having the best sex of her life. "It's quite wonderful," she says. "If you'd told me at 28 that this would be happening I'd never have believed it."But there's a catch. "It's great sex, but it's not with my husband. To be absolutely honest, he's the last man on the planet I'd want to have sex with."Philippa is by no means the only fortysomething having a great time in the bedroom. In a survey of 2,000 women carried out by Health Plus magazine, 77% said that their sex life was at its best in their 40s; 82% of that age group also said that sex was as important to them as it had ever been. Other surveys echo these conclusions - one carried out in the US, for instance, found that women in their 40s want to have sex more often than younger women. Jane Polden, a psychotherapist who specialises in working with middle-aged women, says it's a story she hears time and again, as does relationship psychologist Susan Quilliam, co-author of The New Joy of Sex. "There's plenty of research that shows sex gets better for women as they get older," says Quilliam. "It's one of the best-kept secrets of women's lives." While our culture constantly associates sexiness with youth, the truth seems to be that it is those of us who are approaching the menopause - our hair greying, skin sagging a little - who are at our sexual peak.
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"Put crudely, we F*ck to prove we're alive."
yes!!!
I mean, it's great news, especially as I get older, but to me this is straight out of the "water is wet" department.
I love how they just gloss over the fact that "Philippa" is committing adultery. Maybe she and her husband have an open relationship, which is cool, but they don't go into that at all and just roll on with the story.
Are Brits less hung up about that sort of thing?
I was wondering the same thing, just who is she sleeping with if not her husband?
This is one of those articles lazy journalists recycle every year.
bad thing is that we men start going downhill right when the women are beginning to really percolate ... so when she more than ever needs you to be
Actually, after you click on the link and read the rest of story, they do get back to Phillipa, with a short explanation of her situation.
What I think is amazing is that they managed to plow through an entire article about older women's sex drives in 2009 without once mentioning the term "cougars"!
I think Moms was more like Pete Puma...
Hey,
The trick is to marry an older woman. Wifey is at that "prime age" while I'm younger and able to indulge her accordingly.
Peace,
Big Stacks from Kakalak
BRILLIANT!
[scouting for cougars with his 'elephant gun']
Ah yes, you're right. I actually did click on the link and read it but I lost interest before I got to that part. The rest of the article seems to be about old girl and her dalliances.
The subhead of the article says "Women in their 40's and 50's are having more sex" without mentioning the "with men besides their husbands" part. They let an elephant in the room and let it sit for a while before addressing it.
Again, not that I'm tripping about adultery or open relationships or whatnot. Get it in where you can get it in. I was just bugged out by the author's odd writing choice.
Isn't "cougar" a fairly American term? (and a played-out one, at that?)
This does not bode well for your 40-something sex life.
I understand why Verb zoned out on the rest of the article...because it's not telling us anything we don't already know!!
Only reason I clicked on it in the first place is so I could see what happened with Phillippa...
They went right into all the stuff about menopause and women's this and that and how shit works. That's when they lost me. I know most of that, and my wife will be happy to fill me in on what I don't know as she grows older.
It was my loss, I missed out on the Tales of Ribaldry told later in the article.
Naughty!!!
REAL TAWK
EXERCISE
Thats one thang she wont complain about!!!!!
BANG BANG!!!!
Yep, just make sure "your love goes bang, bang, bang!!!"
Peace,
Big Stacks from Kakalak
Yep, leaving just your perfectly suitable job, your friends and family, your lack of attention when being spoken to, your inability to clean that one little spec of grit off of the frying pan, the timelesness with which you respond to phone calls and text messages, your tone of voice, your facial expressions, your body language, your tendency to rest when you actually have some time to rest, your choice of television programming, your one time out of the last 50 chances that you forgot to take out the trash, your hair, your clothes, your shoes, your elbows, your literal shit that actually does stink, your morning grumpiness, your shying away from planning so painstakenly detailed that you might as well kiss any inkling of spontaneity good-bye, how you cook even though your end-products are always acknowledged as good, how often you wash your hands, which grooming products you use, how you look at other women, what you say to anyone, how you don't do romantic things anymore, how you aren't supportive enough, how you orient to her family, your lack of motivation to add even more to your already-full plate, your past disagreements that you thought were resolved years ago, your quest to actually read a full paragraph from a book or magazine without being interrupted, your selfishness, how you stress out a little when money is tight, how you dance, how you wish to finish watching your favorite runningback score on his game-winning 80-yard jaunt without starting to hear a brand new story about her work drama, your hope that as a couple you might be on time for something at least just once, your first sign of any flab on your body, your whiskers, your breath right after eating onions, your drinking, your weed sacks being short even though they're not, your inability to stop the world from spinning, your sticking up for her when someone is coming down on her since of course you went too far, your tendency to fall asleep whereever you happen to be when you get sleepy, your lack of religious fervor, your political views, your less than enthusiastic attitude towards shopping, your nails being too long, your unibrow beginning to reform, your q-tips having a little too much debris on them, your positioning in the bed as you sleep, your hogging of the blanket which apparently means merely being under it at all, your wish that the temperature in your home is somewhere above freezing cold, your habit of leaving your shoes where you happened to take them off, your failure to lock a single particular window one single night without incident, your refusal to go out in the back yard in the middle of the night to check out every single sound even slightly out of the norm, your nose hairs, your neck hair, any stray back hair, your willingness to actually ask for something out of the ordinary, your sense of individuality, your hobbies, your spending of money on yourself, your one weak Christmas gift out of 20 admitted great ones, your tendency to tell the same story more than once over the course of many years, etc. I did mention your elbows, right?
I'm going to go ahead and guess this is related to your current situation. Buck up! The next one will be far better.
Some of it relates, yes. But really I'm generalizing from what I've now heard from 50-eleven of my closest guy friends. I know there are some great women out there. My woman was a great woman for many, many years. But damn, life isn't all that complicated. The losses come along with the victories. And men know those losses on their end well as what are commonly referred to as compromises. On the flipside, too many women see losses on their end as something to harp on for the rest of their lives. Let it go, ladies, we aren't the same as you. And your allure on us really isn't always worth all of the trouble that y'all put on it.
I do need to buck up though, you're right about that. I'm in full-on whiny mode right now. I really need to get on my nothing-can-bother-me steez asap.