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fashion advice needed (grown-man-style related)

finelikewinefinelikewine "ONCE UPON A TIME, I HAD A VINYL." http://www.discogs.com/user/permabulker 1,416 Posts
edited July 2014 in Strut Central
At the end of the month my brother will have his church wedding and I'll be his groomsman. The bridal couple insists on a "casual" dress code for all invited guests, i.e. no suits allowed. I would have my suit style on lock, but I'm rather clueless how to dress appropriately for this occasion. Any suggestions with pictures would be highly appreciated. Shoping spree, here I come!

Thanks in advance.
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  • mrmatthewmrmatthew 1,575 Posts
    My advice would be to ask the couple to send you (and the others in the wedding party) a picture of what they consider "casual" and then replicate that picture.
    You don't want your interpretation of "casual" give the bride or groom any potential problems on thier big day.
  • Controller_7Controller_7 4,052 Posts
    Good advice. They may not want to restrict people to a certain look, but it's better to be safe than have some people feel uncomfortable because they show up dressed inappropriately. That would take the fun right out of the night if you're feeling awkward.

    My guess would be something like linen pants and button up for dudes and summer dresses/blouses for the ladies. No non-iron type work shirts.
  • finelikewinefinelikewine "ONCE UPON A TIME, I HAD A VINYL." http://www.discogs.com/user/permabulker 1,416 Posts
    Controller_7 said:

    My guess would be something like linen pants and button up for dudes and summer dresses/blouses for the ladies. No non-iron type work shirts.

    That's what I tend to as well. Maybe combined with a not too formal men's jacket? Any recommendations for a good looking one?
  • finelikewinefinelikewine "ONCE UPON A TIME, I HAD A VINYL." http://www.discogs.com/user/permabulker 1,416 Posts
    mrmatthew said:
    My advice would be to ask the couple to send you (and the others in the wedding party) a picture of what they consider "casual" and then replicate that picture.
    You don't want your interpretation of "casual" give the bride or groom any potential problems on thier big day.

    Thanks for you tip. I already asked and they just answered I should wear whatever feels comfortable to me.
  • JimsterJimster Cruffiton.etsy.com 6,955 Posts
    Nice shirt with no tie, decent jeans and clean shoes.
  • parallaxparallax no-style-having mf'er 1,266 Posts


    ...but ditch the hat, have a better contrast between vest and jeans, roll the sleeves up a bit higher, and do up a couple more buttons on the shirt. You're guaranteed to be one of the sharper 'casually dressed' dudes.
  • finelikewinefinelikewine "ONCE UPON A TIME, I HAD A VINYL." http://www.discogs.com/user/permabulker 1,416 Posts
    parallax said:


    ...but ditch the hat, have a better contrast between vest and jeans, roll the sleeves up a bit higher, and do up a couple more buttons on the shirt. You're guaranteed to be one of the sharper 'casually dressed' dudes.

    Looking good! Keep em coming!
  • parallaxparallax no-style-having mf'er 1,266 Posts
    For shoes...



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  • finelikewinefinelikewine "ONCE UPON A TIME, I HAD A VINYL." http://www.discogs.com/user/permabulker 1,416 Posts
    parallax said:
    For shoes...



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    I like the second pair.

    This style could also work, I guess:
  • parallaxparallax no-style-having mf'er 1,266 Posts
    Mos def!

    But go with a pocket square that has more 'pop' and perhaps opt for a more boldly printed shirt w/ oxford collar. A bolder print is more casual and will offset any 'formal' vibes that a jacket might bring. Ditto for an interesting pocket square.

    The slacks are tite, but the colour is a tad boring and has a bit of 'office work' vibe to it. Maybe a different colour, like plum, olive, pale blue...? Just some thoughts, but obviously go with your comfort zone.
  • finelikewinefinelikewine "ONCE UPON A TIME, I HAD A VINYL." http://www.discogs.com/user/permabulker 1,416 Posts
    Can this style also be rocked with a shirt not tucked in the trousers? I would feel a lot more comfortable that way.
    Maybe with a shorter shirt? Or is this a no go?
  • DelayDelay 4,530 Posts
    Only wear a printed shirt with a jacket. If you're going without a jacket... Which I recommend for casual, go with a solid 50% linen.

    Honestly Jcrew's summer line is kind of killing. There are a pair of navy searsucker chinos that I've been rocking too much. Can't really go wrong with shirts at uniqlo 30-50$.

    For shoes? Go sperry or vans. Some shit you'd wear later
  • vintageinfantsvintageinfants 4,537 Posts












  • vintageinfantsvintageinfants 4,537 Posts
    suspenders replace tie in a formal setting, where formal dress has been removed.
  • finelikewinefinelikewine "ONCE UPON A TIME, I HAD A VINYL." http://www.discogs.com/user/permabulker 1,416 Posts
    I guess I don't have the guts rock short pants with a jacket :zooted:
  • finelikewinefinelikewine "ONCE UPON A TIME, I HAD A VINYL." http://www.discogs.com/user/permabulker 1,416 Posts
    I guess I don't have the guts rock short pants with a jacket :zooted:
  • vintageinfantsvintageinfants 4,537 Posts
    vintageinfants said:
    suspenders replace tie in a formal setting, where formal dress has been removed.

    that's 'braces' for the UK heads.... when i was in scotland i went into a menswear spot asking bout 'suspenders' and just about got laughed out of the building.
  • vintageinfantsvintageinfants 4,537 Posts
    finelikewine said:
    I guess I don't have the guts rock short pants with a jacket :zooted:

    mint/yellow/powder blue chinos are the business for summer weddings this year.

    think any Rolex/Breitling magazine advertisement from the 90s, that's the ticket.
  • vintageinfantsvintageinfants 4,537 Posts
    teh_gaffleur would have been perfect on this one.
  • parallaxparallax no-style-having mf'er 1,266 Posts
    finelikewine said:
    Can this style also be rocked with a shirt not tucked in the trousers? I would feel a lot more comfortable that way.
    Maybe with a shorter shirt? Or is this a no go?

    I'd say no go. It will look sloppy.
  • finelikewinefinelikewine "ONCE UPON A TIME, I HAD A VINYL." http://www.discogs.com/user/permabulker 1,416 Posts
    parallax said:
    ...A bolder print is more casual and will offset any 'formal' vibes that a jacket might bring.

    could you give an example for an appropriate shirt with a bolder print, please?
  • vintageinfantsvintageinfants 4,537 Posts
    finelikewine said:
    parallax said:
    ...A bolder print is more casual and will offset any 'formal' vibes that a jacket might bring.

    could you give an example for an appropriate shirt with a bolder print, please?

  • finelikewinefinelikewine "ONCE UPON A TIME, I HAD A VINYL." http://www.discogs.com/user/permabulker 1,416 Posts
    vintageinfants said:
    finelikewine said:
    parallax said:
    ...A bolder print is more casual and will offset any 'formal' vibes that a jacket might bring.

    could you give an example for an appropriate shirt with a bolder print, please?


    damn, this looks fly!
  • vintageinfantsvintageinfants 4,537 Posts
    if you're one of the groomsmen/ushers, please try to establish at least a small theme with the others, even if your brother balks at the idea. you don't all have to wear the same thing, but at least a similar color palette in different styles so it doesn't look like he grabbed 4 dudes out of the parking lot.
  • finelikewinefinelikewine "ONCE UPON A TIME, I HAD A VINYL." http://www.discogs.com/user/permabulker 1,416 Posts
    vintageinfants said:
    if you're one of the groomsmen/ushers, please try to establish at least a small theme with the others, even if your brother balks at the idea. you don't all have to wear the same thing, but at least a similar color palette in different styles so it doesn't look like he grabbed 4 dudes out of the parking lot.

    good idea!
  • HorseleechHorseleech 3,830 Posts
    finelikewine said:
    I guess I don't have the guts rock short pants with a jacket :zooted:

    Good for you because it's one of the worst looks in the history of mankind.
  • parallaxparallax no-style-having mf'er 1,266 Posts
    finelikewine said:
    vintageinfants said:
    finelikewine said:
    parallax said:
    ...A bolder print is more casual and will offset any 'formal' vibes that a jacket might bring.

    could you give an example for an appropriate shirt with a bolder print, please?


    damn, this looks fly!

    The shirt works.

    But needless to say (I hope), red pants are almost impossible to pull off, unless you're a street magician, or hold a 10th dan blackbelt in the sartorial arts. IRL terms, avoid red pants. I'm sure you would anyway, but I say this to all other Strutters (except Herm who probably owns a pair and rocks them well).

    I'm with Horseleech on blazer/shorts combos looking goofy, especially shorter shorts. It kind of works in a British boarding-school kind of way...but only on children imo.
  • DuderonomyDuderonomy Haut de la Garenne 7,789 Posts
    vintageinfants said:
    vintageinfants said:
    suspenders replace tie in a formal setting, where formal dress has been removed.

    that's 'braces' for the UK heads.... when i was in scotland i went into a menswear spot asking bout 'suspenders' and just about got laughed out of the building.

    Dude, you obviously don't have the pins for 'em.

  • HorseleechHorseleech 3,830 Posts
    parallax said:
    I'm with Horseleech on blazer/shorts combos looking goofy, especially shorter shorts. It kind of works in a British boarding-school kind of way...but only on children imo.

    If the wedding is going to be on a boat or the beach I'd give it a pass, but around town? Hell no.

    Unless you're this guy:

  • vintageinfantsvintageinfants 4,537 Posts
    finelikewine said:
    parallax said:
    ...A bolder print is more casual and will offset any 'formal' vibes that a jacket might bring.

    could you give an example for an appropriate shirt with a bolder print, please?

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