Isn't death weird these days?
asstro
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I found out a few hours ago that an old girlfriend of mine passed away over the weekend. Only 39, supposedly heart failure or something like that. I hadn't seen her in probably 15 years but we had kept in touch via email and Facebook like most people do these days, I last heard from her about a week ago. It's blowing my mind a bit that I can go back and read our correspondence and text messages and it's like she is still here. We've touched on this here at SoulStrut before when Monty and Matt Africa and Breakself passed, but fuck, the modern world makes mourning weird...
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I agree, it is very strange. I know a few people who have passed away whose FB pages still exist. Mutual friends are always posting stuff on their wall like "'Member when we used to sing along to this song?" It kinda bugs me, but of course it's such a sensitive subject that I don't say anything. I know it's a coping mechanism of sorts, but still...I can't really get with it.
Sorry for your loss Asstro.
It is really weird though
To me, people keep using social media as an excuse for their weird tendencies that used to only come out in other ways.
Yes, it's facebook that made you a douchebag. Of course you weren't already like that.
This reminds me of a possibly abandoned but interesting project afterlyfe.me. Essentially, it looks at your behaviors on whatever social networks you feed into it and then creates a ghost version of you that continues to post after you die.
http://shwood.squarespace.com/news/2011/1/15/on-becoming-a-virtual-ghost.html
The above is an article about the project from one of it's creators.
That is seriously messed up.
And yes.
I dunno brah... I mean, it could explain a lot of posts here.
Maybe everyone here is some kind of advanced Out-of-Office, designed to distract me from the fact that I am the last human on Earth.
HARV! HARV??!?!? ARE YOU THERE BUDDY?1?!1!1?1??!
It can't be any weirder than walking into a library and knowing nearly all the words therein are by folk who are long gone.
Or NZ's yard.
I don't know???I just don't want to be opening teh Facebooks and reading status updates from my dead friends and family. Kinda harshes my social media experience. I'M TRYING TO PLAY WORDS WITH FRIENDS OVER HERE, MOM. PLEASE TO STOP REMINDING ME OF YOUR DEATH FROM BEYOND THE GRAVE KTHNXBAI.
This is due to insurance companies buying bad/old lists of names of potential customers, etc.
I was complaining to a neighbor who has lived in the neighborhood 20+ years and mentioned one of the names that kept getting mail.
He told me that the guy died in a pretty horrible car accident in the 90's.
Dudes name somehow got picked up by some other mass mailers now I constantly get junk mail for a dead man.
Kind of spooky.
They are sending dead folks mail because they voted in the last election.
No.
But I appreciate the effort.
She was incredibly nice and you could tell that she desperately wanted to hear his voice again even if it was on some "hey honey, I'm headed to the store..lemme know if you need me to pick anything up, love ya'" type shit...
There was nothing I could do for her. Fuck...haven't thought about that in a while.
NSA has 'em.
http://www.soulstrut.com/index.php/forums/viewthread/71555/
Firstly, sincere condolences on recent and distant losses; there's no timeline for grief. A couple of years ago after a good friend died, while reminiscing and drinking, I decided to point out the absurdity of the residual-self left behind through WWF - Facebook integration via a support ticket to Zynga. They made it all better with a few 'coins' (See below).
These days, when I encounter my friend's remaindered flickr or instagram or xbox avatar or what have you, it tends to make me smile just to have have those small glimpses back into his life. It is odd though, to be sure.
/deepthottz
They were friends of my pops back in the day when there was this "Bourgie" Black group of 30 somethings who played Tennis in the community.
I got to know them when Z'Novia's (Soul food restaurant that would let me bring my laptop down and rock) opened up in my building. We'd chat all the time over wine and shit.
Just found out she passed away recently, when my neighbor asked why I wasn't present at her funeral.
Fusk.
Glad to have a part of her collectron.
More and more tools to deny our humanity...making it easier and easier to not be humane.
Kind of along the same lines, after my brother passed away I called his cell number a few times just to hear his voicemail message. Eventually a girl answered the phone, and that was that.
I hope it doesn't happen to me.