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does february 14th have any meaning for you?

TREWTREW 2,037 Posts
edited February 2006 in Strut Central
personally, i could care less.. historically the day has always been trouble up until i met my fiance (and learned of fredricks of hollywood online) now i 'care' but only in regards to how the day goes for her. what about you? don't be afraid to get emo..
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  • RAJRAJ tenacious local 7,782 Posts
    Yes. It's My Wife's Birthday.

  • TREWTREW 2,037 Posts
    Yes. It's My Wife's Birthday.


    double whammy!
  • jaymackjaymack 5,199 Posts
    no.

    very feminine day.

    strictly for girls.

    though im curious if there are any sensitive types thar ride for st. valentine.
  • jazzercismjazzercism 838 Posts
    Nothing wrong with drinking champagne, making your girlfriend happy, and having some wild sex.
  • drewnicedrewnice 5,465 Posts
    Everyone wants to either be recognized as somebody's Valentine, or recognize someone else. The only people I've ever known who say they could care less didn't have a Valentine.
  • gloomgloom 2,765 Posts
    Nothing wrong with drinking champagne, making your girlfriend happy, and having some wild sex.

    yes
  • sonofsamsonofsam 680 Posts
    my wife and i don't celebrate valentine's day at all
  • TREWTREW 2,037 Posts
    my wife and i don't celebrate valentine's day at all


    yours or her choice?
  • drewnicedrewnice 5,465 Posts
    my wife and i don't celebrate valentine's day at all

    Is this the "contrived corporate holiday" argument? Plaese to essplane.
  • ariel_calmerariel_calmer 3,762 Posts
    Nothing wrong with drinking champagne, making your girlfriend happy, and having some wild sex.

    And how would this be different from my normal day?
  • canonicalcanonical 2,100 Posts
    I don't celebrate valentines, for the following reasons:

    1) Philosophically I'm a materialist, so regular notions of love and ever-lasting relationships I find foreign and confusing. Therefore, a day whose purpose is to celebrate things that I don't think exist would be a bit contradictory.

    2) Waste of money.

    3) I don't like the idea of having regular set days to buy gifts for people you appreciate. I, rather, like the idea of appreciating your friends whenever you feel necessary and have the means to do so. I find my friends and partners get a lot more out of this than the regular Birthday, Christmas, and in the case of a partner Valentine cycle.

    4) I hope to be dating someone who is secure enough in themselves and getting what they need out of a relationship with me (and if they weren't, then they should leave) and therefore does not need a dedicated day of the year where this is revealed to them in a concentrated, and a lot of the time feigned, form.

    I don't want to come off as condescending. These views just stem from a philosophical premise which I try to apply diligently to my life
  • jazzercismjazzercism 838 Posts
    Nothing wrong with drinking champagne, making your girlfriend happy, and having some wild sex.

    And how would this be different from my normal day?

  • TREWTREW 2,037 Posts

    2) Waste of money.

    ahem.. see above 'fredricks of hollywood' statement. it's the gift that keeps on giving!


    4) I hope to be dating someone who is secure enough in themselves and getting what they need out of a relationship with me (and if they weren't, then they should leave) and therefore does not need a dedicated day of the year where this is revealed to them in a concentrated, and a lot of the time feigned, form.

    good luck with that
  • FlomotionFlomotion 2,391 Posts
    Everyone wants to either be recognized as somebody's Valentine, or recognize someone else. The only people I've ever known who say they could care less didn't have a Valentine.

    Maybe for the girls, but for most guys I think there's a strong element of peer pressure and obligation because traditional wisdom has it that only a schmuck doesn't do something for his girl on Valentine's Day. It's pretty much a day for florists, Hallmark cards and restaurateurs to hike up their prices in a tawdry feeding frenzy of commercialism.

    Nothing wrong with drinking champagne, making your girlfriend happy, and having some wild sex.

    Absolutely.
  • jazzercismjazzercism 838 Posts

    2) Waste of money.

    [sabadabada]you sound poor[/sabadabada]
  • drewnicedrewnice 5,465 Posts
    1) Philosophically I'm a materialist, so regular notions of love and ever-lasting relationships I find foreign and confusing. Therefore, a day whose purpose is to celebrate things that I don't think exist would be a bit contradictory.

    Have you ever been in a relationship before? Just asking.
  • drewnicedrewnice 5,465 Posts
    only a schmuck doesn't do something for his girl on Valentine's Day.
  • FlomotionFlomotion 2,391 Posts
    1) Philosophically I'm a materialist, so regular notions of love and ever-lasting relationships I find foreign and confusing. Therefore, a day whose purpose is to celebrate things that I don't think exist would be a bit contradictory.

    Nietzsche? Is that you, Freddy?
  • canonicalcanonical 2,100 Posts
    1) Philosophically I'm a materialist, so regular notions of love and ever-lasting relationships I find foreign and confusing. Therefore, a day whose purpose is to celebrate things that I don't think exist would be a bit contradictory.

    Have you ever been in a relationship before? Just asking.
    Yes. Obviously I don't date girls who have very contradictory views to this. This viewpoint has alienated me from very many women, but it has allowed me also to have very positive relationships with the women I share this approach with.

    You really have to ask yourself why you get into relationships in the first place. I find this is key, and has been the source of my approach to relationships. Self-awareness is key mang.

    As for money, yeah, I'm not a .
  • GenePontecorvoGenePontecorvo 5,612 Posts
    My wife is real cool. We don't make a *huge* deal out of it, also partly cos her birthday was just a couple of weeks ago. A nice card, maybe some chocolates, a rose (just sent her flowers for her birthday)...should be good. We usually choose to cook at home cos Valentine's evening in Austin equals restaraunt madness. Champagne will be consumed though.

    I dunno, the "holiday" gets on my nerves cos of the rampant $$$-spending attached. I think its good for young lovers or new couples or couples that are perpetratin and need a special day to make them feel good about their fragile relationship.
  • mannybolonemannybolone Los Angeles, CA 15,025 Posts
    My wife and I could care less about Valentine's Day.

    Celebrate your relationship everyday. Or at least on any day where you're not obligated to spend a shit load on roses and candy and an overpriced dinner.

    (And also, by the time you're married, with kids, Valentine's Day seems a bit too quaintly antiquated.)

    Not knockin' anyone else's V-Day's hustle. Get your love on!
  • canonicalcanonical 2,100 Posts
    Haha, oh geeze. For the record, I really don't want to turn this into a soulstrut vs canonical relationship debate. I know I have very different and contradictory views than many of you, especially considering many of you are married etc.

    I just wanted to give a little background on why I don't celebrate valentines rather than just stating "YO I DON'T CELEBRATE VALENTINES SHIT IS FOR SUCKERS".
  • kitchenknightkitchenknight 4,922 Posts
    We usually choose to cook at home cos Valentine's evening in Austin equals restaraunt madness. Champagne will be consumed though.

    My years working in restaurants forever turned me off to Valentine's Day...that day where every schmuck who never goes out to eat gets dressed up, shows up at the restaurant, and waits for their Chocolate Passion Cake dessert. I get the lady some flowers, but there's no way I'd ever go out on Valentine's.
  • drewnicedrewnice 5,465 Posts

    "Self-awareness is key mang."
  • ElectrodeElectrode Los Angeles 3,129 Posts
    This day doesnt mean shit to me. Yes, I am bitter
  • TREWTREW 2,037 Posts
    Haha, oh geeze. For the record, I really don't want to turn this into a soulstrut vs canonical relationship debate. I know I have very different and contradictory views than many of you, especially considering many of you are married etc.

    I just wanted to give a little background on why I don't celebrate valentines rather than just stating "YO I DON'T CELEBRATE VALENTINES SHIT IS FOR SUCKERS".

    it's all good man. to each his own.. but your #1 seems a bit cold to function w/in a relationship.
  • JuniorJunior 4,853 Posts
    I play it by ear. Sometimes I'll surprise her with a nice dinner out, sometimes I'll have flowers delivered, sometimes it'll be nothing more than a card and a takeaway.

    Hate the idea of the expectation of gifts etc on Valentines Day. Think a lack of spontaneity and surprise kinda misses the point.

    It also depends on how broke I am.
  • gloomgloom 2,765 Posts


    It also depends on how broke I am.

    yeah we are going with the 20 dollar limit this time around. makes you get a little more creative.
  • canonicalcanonical 2,100 Posts

    it's all good man. to each his own.. but your #1 seems a bit cold to function w/in a relationship.
    Haha, yeah, and it does come off like that to a lot of people. If I took the time to explain though, you would understand more and it would be apparent its more about function and construction than cold philosophical bullshit. I just don't have the time to explain that right now
  • bull_oxbull_ox 5,056 Posts
    This day doesnt mean shit to me. Yes, I am bitter

    I'd say for about 8 years this day was HELL for me

    Every time after the first that I celebrated and before my current relationship

    But its always sweet w/my present-day girl...

    I say that to say this- your bitterness will one day evaporate...
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